Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone on Holiday – 324

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My partner and I are vacationing in a small town in Greece. It’s really interesting to observe and be present with reactions when entering a new place/country.

For me especially, at the beginning of my holiday, I was in a constant state of dissatisfaction and criticism. I could feel the reactions towards the accommodation, and location creep up in me, and instead of suppressing, I allowed them to come up. Just be with them. I knew these were comfort zones being challenged, and that being here was actually a good/supportive thing. There were a lot of realities present that I wasn’t prepared for when coming to Greece, but were necessary to experience: poor plumbing, power outages, having to walk up and down hills to get to the market or places (if you don’t have a car), having to buy water bottles because tap water is unsafe, having to see stray cats who aren’t neutered, with their babies, and are thin/hungry.

In a way, this experience has been extremely humbling for me. I realize I need these reality checks every now and then because I can get so caught up in my life in Austria and its comforts, I take advantage of that. I sometimes forget about how life is for other people and animals around the world.

Being here in Greece has put my survival into perspective. I have to think about if I have enough water bottles, whether I should go out at certain times of the day because it’s so hot, be careful with cooking and handling local water. Also, I have to be more in tune with myself and my surroundings because there are wild plants, bugs, and animals to be aware of.

This sort of ”wildness” as I can describe is very good for me to experience, to get back to life/reality and see how things really are in this world. Getting out of my comfort zone on holiday is cool.

While some things are harder here in Greece, compared to where I live in Austria, the people are exceptionally warm, open and friendly with you, as a stranger. It’s really nice and different than what I face in Austria. Plus, there is natural beauty all around, from the cypress and palm trees, mountains, the sea/beaches, and the interesting birds and wildlife.

I find it really healthy for oneself to go off to a foreign place from time to time and really get involved, dive in deep with how things are, and live life like the locals. It will certainly challenge your comfort zones and bring new perspectives on how to live and enjoy life.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation of human consciousness/human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

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Being Responsible for Others: Working with Interns – 322

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I had the privilege of being a supervisor for a pair of interns this summer, for an organization I volunteer at. While some people may groan and fuss about having to watch a couple of college students all summer, I found it exceptionally rewarding.

Mostly because they were fresh faces with fresh perspectives on things in life. It was really great to get to know them as individuals and see where their strengths and talents lie.

For example, our first meeting we simply got to know each other and our personality types. We talked about our astrological signs, our Enneagram numbers and whether we side more on the introvert or extrovert side. So the first impression was that everyone understood where each person was, self-honestly, and from there I got to determine what type of work I could give them, where they could thrive.

Of course, this was a learning process, as I first started to give the male intern work on graphic design because he was more of the art type who had a love of the finer things in life. However, I saw that I was excluding the opportunity for the female intern to take on the job too, so I then decided to assign her some tasks with graphic design. I knew she and I discussed beforehand that she never really worked with graphics, but lo and behold, after much tinkering around, she designed some pretty amazing things and I think became proud of herself.

Eventually though as shit started to hit the fan between me and my co-founder in regards to finances and drama at the location we were at, I started to see our unit as a family. A family that needs to stay strong and stable amidst the turmoil going on. I soon started to see the interns as children. Where my co-founder and I were like the parents and that the emotions and shit we were experiencing towards things happening on the outside, could seep into our relationship with the interns.

Eventually, it got to the point where I had to became the sole ‘parent’ or person who had to keep everything together and became entirely responsible for the ‘kids’/interns. It was no fun and I still have to deal with reactions with this point, but I could really see the intrinsic responsibility that comes forth when you allow people to work with you and walk with you in your life, that you see every day. That they (the interns) started to pick up on subtleties and changes going on between me and my co-founder and started to ask about it.

I then took the liberty of being honest and direct with what was going on behind the scenes, in a way that didn’t reveal everything but enough for them to understand the stuff that can happen in an organization. And from this, I also realized the importance of the co-founders needing to stick together, but also the truth that: running a business or organization with a friend may not be the best idea. It certainly is not working for me.

I also realized for myself, after many mistakes, that I am best to do projects alone, by myself, being my own boss and CEO. This has inspired me to take on a new venture/project that is currently in the making, that is more aligned to me. Where no one is boss except me.

So, to sum this all up – when you take responsibility for a set of interns, my suggestion is to realize you are responsible for them in a way, similar to a parent, in that they do look up to you for guidance and instruction. They still have a lot of learning in life (as we all do), but since you are the supervisor, you need to consider who you are, your actions, and how you handle things – especially when shit hits the fan. Would you like the interns to take on these characteristics you’ve been displaying and have them apply it later in their life? Because that’s how supervisors are supposed to act?

For example, when shit hits the fan are you going to freak out in front of everyone or are you going to sit down and start brainstorming for solutions? This is what I had to do because I had no choice. I could not show the interns that being and feeling defeated in the face of the system and giving up on the organization is the way to go. You have to keep moving on until you tested all options and see that it is best in the end. Overall it’s important that you show your interns, or whoever is with you, to not give up. Even if that means you have to take on a load for a while until things settle down.

I could not have come to such stability and drive for solutions if it were not for the Desteni tools and community. I truly believe walking my process with them made me become a more pragmatic, practical, less emotional, and commonsensical person.

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation of human consciousness/human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

Imagination Impressions & Physical Reality – 312

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Something I’d like to share is that some time ago I imagined me dancing well to a particular song, believing that I could do well since I have background experience in dance.

Then when I actually watched a tutorial on how to dance to the song and physically tried out the moves I was hit by surprise to see how what I believed would be easy was not. I fumbled around with my arms and body trying to mimjc the dancer in the video. Reality gave me a taste of what is REAL because what I THOUGHT I was good at got totally squished when I applied this thought to physical reality.

Which is yet again another indication for me on how important it is to cross reference myself by physical living and actions. That if I for example believe myself to be nice it must be proven in the physical by how nice I take care of myself, my body and others. So physical reality really is that point of absolute truth of me and all of us really.

So this is a short blog on a realization I had that has helped me see nothing is in fact true unless proven and shown in reality. What I THINK and BELIEVE about myself, who I am and what I can do can only be validated if it is lived and proven in the physical.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

What is Meaningful to You and Me – Day 309

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Some people find their religion to be a very meaningful thing in their life. This is what I have discovered upon watching a couple of friend’s Instagram Stories (Instastories) who are in the same church community and thus share a lot of activities that go on in their church.

At first I would react to it – and still to this day I have more sorting out to do – but I have taken it upon myself to finally ask what am I reacting to here? and I found it more has to do with my relationship to meaning.

My friends find church and religion to be meaningful – it is something that is a part of who they are, and it’s in their life. Their church and community mean a lot to them which is why they share/talk about it online unapologetically and openly.

For me, I find there are many things that are meaningful to me but don’t share them so openly and exuberantly like my friends do – and that is what’s missing. Is that I am not being honest with myself in that I would like to share with my friend about Desteni and how it’s a part of my life. It’s something that has been a part of my life for a long time, that is a part of me – and not sharing/revealing/being open about this is like I’m suppressing a huge part of who I am and it doesn’t feel well.

So my plan is to share with this one particular friend (who I connect very well with and has sort of become like a sister to me in a way) more of my life as a Destonian, because like church being a large part of her life, Desteni is like that to me (nix worshipping someone/something, though I do honor Life hehe).

From this, knowing my friend quite well, I need to plan accordingly since there is a large possibility she may get triggered/react not well if I talk about the Portal and beings on other side/afterlife, since it would challenge so much in her, so will look into how to word and explain things in a way where the essence and meaning of my life with Desteni is communicated…

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

 

Thank Goodness for DIP Buddies

niko-photos-333391-unsplashIn a state of overwhelming emotion I contacted my Desteni i Process* buddy and they supported me by being direct and sharing their personal experience with the point I was going through. This gave me the direction I needed to make a decision within myself about what I’m going to do about what I was struggling with. 

From this, I say, I am truly grateful to have access to my DIP buddy, to go to for these little ”emergencies” or in need of guidance outside of our regular chat days and times. However I do recognize the importance of not ABUSING that availability by going to them for things I know I can figure out first by myself.

In this specific case I was really struggling and other ways/means of working with it didn’t pull through, so I needed to talk to someone. And knowing my buddy’s availability and expertise on the point, I knew they could help.

At first I doubted if its “okay” to contact them when it’s not during a regularly scheduled chat, but because I didnt want to wait for our next chat, and was in a pretty difficult state, I just contacted them to see. 

For those walking the Desteni i Process – you have quite a gift with having a buddy who can be there for you, not just once a week, but more if needed. But like I said, be careful you don’t abuse the oppurtunity and take advantage of them… find a balance to work on things yourself and use other sources and people if need be. Our buddies have lives too, so they cannot be at our every beck and call 🙂 but they really are truly a “blessing”!

*What is the Desteni i Process? It’s a life coaching platform where you’ll learn essential life skills and practice simple common-sense tools such as self-forgiveness, writing and self-corrective application. Based on years of research & practice, developed with attention to detail, proven by hundreds of people and delivered to you comfortably through the web.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

Day 302. Interacting Within & Without

charles-deluvio-456505There is a particular person in my life, who when I interact with them I become really tired and quiet in myself. I also in a way, like shut down and don’t really talk with them. It got to a point where I basically had enough of how I was experiencing, and I said to myself what am I exactly reacting to? Because if I get tired and shut down when I’m around this person that means I’m reacting to something they’re doing.

I found out by giving me the space,  and safety within to really look (and knowing that once I find out the answer I will do something about it), I found out I had a reaction to the content they were sharing and my thought was ”that doesn’t matter…this is not important,” so essentially judging what they are sharing with me, seeing it as pointless, and separating myself from them and the convo.

What I decided to do – because this was going on during a conversation – was I decided to start taking what they were sharing, and seeing what I could learn about it. So I shifted the focus to them them them oh what they’re sharing doesn’t matter to me, and adding me into it – what can I learn about me in what they are sharing?

For example, someone was sharing about their trip to a museum and how they enjoyed the antique signs, and I realized this person must like History… so I asked them if it’s true – if they like History, and they said yes, and then I looked at who else in my life likes History, and if I like History myself …this way creating a balance where I engage with me (internally in looking at who I am with a certain topic / situation) and engage without, by interacting with the person, and asking questions.

So by creating the balance of being involved within and without, the tiredness subsided and I was able to enjoy myself much more.

So this is but one example of how I moved me when I became tired/shut down from being with someone. I haven’t exactly transcended or understood the entire mind consciousness system point behind my tiredness/shutting down, but this is how I moved me in that moment, and it supported me 🙂

 

Recommended Resources:

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

297. Extracting the Gift & Words in Dreams

jake-davies-339189How I’ve been working with dreams is that – whenever I have a prominent dream – a dream that ‘’sticks’’ with me when I wake up, with strong emotions, that is my indication that laying behind the dream is a gift and specific word(s) for me to extract and discover.

What I’ve been doing is I look at what happened in the dream, and what I reacted strongly too. Then I walk Self-Forgiveness to release myself from the emotion to see what point is behind it for me to learn from, and the word that comes from the reaction that I can now use in expanding myself in my self-creation process.

So for example I had a dream where I found my partner was looking at porn and I reacted strongly to this. I was basically hysterical – screaming at him.

During the dream I was so into the reactions I ‘’lost’’ myself in those moments. I woke up and forgave myself of being so hysterical towards my partner, and found a supportive word for me to redefine and apply in my life from here on – that is UNDERSTAND – redefining it to – asking questions and walking a process / journey of finding where I or another person stands with things.

So I in a way extracted my reaction to the dream, forgave it, investigated it into finding a support word and tested it by applying it in the dream (meaning, go back and walk the correction in applying the word  UNDERSTAND in asking my partner straightforwardly Why are you looking at porn again? For me to get to a space of knowing where he stands with it so I can then assist and support since I would then know what he is going through).

This word – UNDERSTAND – I also then am applying in my daily life, where whenever I react to something, instead of avoiding the reaction, or letting it go, I FIND OUT what it is I reacted to by asking questions or using writing / other ways and means to get to a point of knowing where I stand with something, so I can then decide if I want to continue living in this point or change it.

Then I also shared my dream with my partner – and through him walking a process of self-consciousness he was additionally able to point out that the dream also showed how I have issues with MY BODY. So this then I am grateful to see/realize how this dream was more of a gift in disguise that just needs to points extracted to be looked at and sorted through understanding and solutions.

You can request a Dream Reading if you would like someone to analyze it here.

Here is a special recording on the Meaning of Dreams if you’re interested.

 

Recommended Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation