Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone on Holiday – 324

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My partner and I are vacationing in a small town in Greece. It’s really interesting to observe and be present with reactions when entering a new place/country.

For me especially, at the beginning of my holiday, I was in a constant state of dissatisfaction and criticism. I could feel the reactions towards the accommodation, and location creep up in me, and instead of suppressing, I allowed them to come up. Just be with them. I knew these were comfort zones being challenged, and that being here was actually a good/supportive thing. There were a lot of realities present that I wasn’t prepared for when coming to Greece, but were necessary to experience: poor plumbing, power outages, having to walk up and down hills to get to the market or places (if you don’t have a car), having to buy water bottles because tap water is unsafe, having to see stray cats who aren’t neutered, with their babies, and are thin/hungry.

In a way, this experience has been extremely humbling for me. I realize I need these reality checks every now and then because I can get so caught up in my life in Austria and its comforts, I take advantage of that. I sometimes forget about how life is for other people and animals around the world.

Being here in Greece has put my survival into perspective. I have to think about if I have enough water bottles, whether I should go out at certain times of the day because it’s so hot, be careful with cooking and handling local water. Also, I have to be more in tune with myself and my surroundings because there are wild plants, bugs, and animals to be aware of.

This sort of ”wildness” as I can describe is very good for me to experience, to get back to life/reality and see how things really are in this world. Getting out of my comfort zone on holiday is cool.

While some things are harder here in Greece, compared to where I live in Austria, the people are exceptionally warm, open and friendly with you, as a stranger. It’s really nice and different than what I face in Austria. Plus, there is natural beauty all around, from the cypress and palm trees, mountains, the sea/beaches, and the interesting birds and wildlife.

I find it really healthy for oneself to go off to a foreign place from time to time and really get involved, dive in deep with how things are, and live life like the locals. It will certainly challenge your comfort zones and bring new perspectives on how to live and enjoy life.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation of human consciousness/human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

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249. To Go or Not to Go?

to go or not to go desteniI have the opportunity to go to the Desteni farm during my three week break this summer, but certain events happened in my life, where my partner is unable to go to the farm now due to school projects/graduation, and also that my dad has been going through serious health issues the last three months that has been hard on my mom. I have been experiencing conflict on what I should do – should I go to the farm, or should I spend my vacation seeing my dad and helping my mom? Can I forgive myself for going home and not to the farm? Can I forgive myself for going to farm and not go home?

So I use constructive imagination to place me at the farm – what are the experiences and thoughts coming up? I do the same by imagining at home in USA…

Here I walk the process:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become angry at not being at the farm because I think that if I were at the farm I would have my process quantified and become faster to transcend, placing dependence on the farm people to make me move more in my process, not realizing I can move me as effectively as long as I am self-honest and self-motivated

I commit to stop fearing not going to the farm because of the belief if I don’t go I can’t quantify my process, because I realize I am depending on the farm people to help me quantify my process instead of realizing I can quantify my process by every moment taking responsibility for who I am, becoming directive principle, not allowing the mind to control/direct/influence me, but always strive to find solutions

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear to not being at the farm because I believe the farm is going to help me transcend points better and also help me quantify my process much faster and because I am not there I fear losing the time that could have helped me walk and quantify process

I commit myself to stop depending on the farm people to help me or save me or quantify me in my process. I can only quantify if I walk consistently, in dedication, using the resources and time I have to work on myself

from this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that I wont make process and cant make process if I don’t go to the farm this year because I believe this is a special year where I am finally coming to grips on myself and my mind, and really working on myself and my process, and that this farm visit is what I need and if I cannot be there/go there I will lose the opp. to really move and finalize my commitment to life, instead of realizing I can make the commitment to life right here right now, it is a decision to live and act in all ways what is best for all. so I realize I can ‘easily’ become committed and walk my process without visiting the farm, it just is a matter of commitment, and dedication and consistency

I commit myself to stand within my commitment to life, which is a commitment to myself, my real self, and walk myself to my real self, no matter what

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to regret not going to the farm this year because I believe I will never be able to go or be invited after this opp. because I fear that they wont allow me to come anymore instead of realizing I am only unable to come if I stop my DIP participation completely and my participation in the group completely and/or that my standing is not genuine

I commit myself to stop regretting not going to the farm, because I honestly know that the farm will still be there/remain and I am welcome as long as I continue to support myself and be there for myself and others/Destonians


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty when I think about/imagine my mother being all alone, helpless, sad and shaken and in need of emotional support, and from this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to manipulate myself into feeling emotional, with emotions of helplessness and sadness myself regarding this situation

I commit myself to stop manipulating myself with imaginations, as I realize me participating in these imaginations are not real/do in fact show me what my mom will go through, but only generate/feed me to become even more emotional

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to cry thinking that my mom needs me and I can’t ‘be there’ for her emotionally, instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that I need to be with me, I need to give myself stability and the acceptance of where I am now and that I can only support as much as I can to my mother at this time, and the best support I can give to my mother is to be stable inside myself

I commit myself to remember and apply stability when I see myself become emotional when it comes to the situation with my father, and to also practice remaining stable when I talk to my mother, always focusing on solutions, not giving into the emotions and imaginations of the mind

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect guilt to an image/projection of my mom helpless, sad, hunched shoulders, in need of me to be there for her, to take care of her and the house, not realizing these are images and I cannot believe them, but only actually speak to my mother in real time to see if there is something I can do

I see, realize and understand that I am manipulated with guilt, due to the idea that I must and should be with family during these difficult times, not actually ASKING the people directly involved (my mom, and dad) if they do really need my physical support

I commit to ask my mother directly if she needs my support this summer, and determine by her answer the best course for me to take

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to cry out of helplessness because I am far away from my mom and I cant be with her now, making this situation/ordeal emotional and difficult for myself. I realize I am manipulating myself again to pity myself and manipulate myself into the emotion of helplessness, when in fact, this is how my life is rolling out, and how my family’s life is rolling out, and I can only do what I can do within the limitations I have, so I must accept this

I commit myself to accept where I am now, accept the limitation that I am living abroad/far away from my family and cannot physically be with them unless it is a dire emergency, then I can see them soon, otherwise I can organize my time to come see them during my vacation time

I also feel like it would be my fault if I don’t go, that my moms misery is my fault somehow, that I need to comfort her–

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself perceive it to be my fault for my mother’s misery, instead of realizing she is responsible for her experiences and I can only show her through my words and phone calls how to be stable, how to find solutions

I commit myself to stand in stability and support within myself during this time with my family, to when I interact with my family, to do so as stable as I can, knowing that I must take responsibility of me and my emotions before I am able to take responsibility of another’s mind/emotions

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear it being my fault my mom sinks into a low depression and becomes so incapable of handling herself and her emotions, she becomes insane/mentally unstable, and from this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear my mother’s mental health to deteriorate rapidly to such an extent she becomes disabled and vegetative and I am left full of regret, because I think if I were physically there to help her with and through this process with my dad, she would be ok

I see, realize and understand only under such mental distress can this happen, and is only if the person does not know how to handle their mind and life events. I also realize this is a paranoia point and a little over-exagerrated, but also a worst case scenario, and that it would not be my fault for my mother to become mentally unstable/insane since I am not responsible for her own thoughts/emotions, etc, but I am responsible for myself and who I am with my mother.

I commit myself to stop manipulating me with imaginations and projections of my mom going crazy/becoming emotional unstable, since this only leads me to further generation of energy/mind illusions where within my participation I claim/show I give my value to the mind than reality

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe I must save my mom from this difficult situation by being there for her, thinking and believing being there with some physically can make the person feel better, but from my experience of being with her during a difficult time, it did not actually help, thus showing it is up to each one to decide how they are going to be and experience themselves, no matter the support and advice is given – it is up to self on how to move forward/be

I commit myself to remember that no matter the amount of support I give to another, it is up to them to decide how to use it/apply it, and that I cannot force them or save them from something

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel helpless in my situation, where I am unable to be with my family physically due to physical limitations of living abroad/far away and unable to take the time off of work now

I commit myself to check in with my mom to see how I may be able to assist, so that I cross-reference with reality

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear missing out on being with my family because I think that if I were there with them, things would be/get better, instead of realizing this is an idea I have and that it has been shown the last time I was there when my dad was sick, was that despite my presence, things did not get better- my mom still worried and my dad continued to get sick

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be sad about not being there for my family, being there to help cook meals for/with my mom, doing chores, things necessary to support a person to keep going and living in life

I see, realize and understand it gives me joy to help another, to be of service to another when another is in need and I am available, especially to my mom, though going into an emotional state of sadness/longing does not support me and my current situation now, but only supports the generation of energy within the mind consciousness system

I commit myself to stop giving into the emotions of sadness and longing, wishing to be with my mom now, helping her, and instead-accept the situation and that I will see her in a couple of months

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist going home to USA because I think it’s going to be boring, and from this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to manipulate me into believing if I go to USA it will be boring, with one computer, quiet, not much to do around the area, instead of realizing I fear facing the reality of my life at home

I commit myself to stop manipulating myself into believing that USA is going to be boring, because I know I can utilize my time and opp. there to make it a supportive environment for me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing my father, my home, because of memories that are attached/connected to my home in USA not realizing how I am holding myself hostage, making myself inferior to these fears instead of taking them one by one, understanding them, walking through them, and finding ways to empower myself from/through them

I commit myself to utilize the fears I have of going back home, taking them one by one, understanding them, and finding ways to empower myself through/from them

This was a long one. Thanks for reading!