Redefining “…forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” – 320

fadi-xd-799659-unsplashJesus said, “…forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

I have stumbled upon this quote over the last couple of months, both within my DIP buddy chats, and Desteni community chats. But for some reason I couldn’t get it, and I couldn’t see why I should forgive people when they do not know what they are doing.

A part of me was stuck with the word ”know.” Usually, people know to an extent what they are doing, ie: they know they are hitting someone, or speaking hurtful words to someone – they must know to an extent what they are doing is not cool, but where do we forgive them within all of that?

I had to actually redefine the entire sentence for me to truly get it. I redefined the sentence to being: to forgive people for their mistakes/wrongdoings because they are not or weren’t aware of the consequences and impact of their actions/words/presence towards themselves and others.

So by bringing the word ”aware” into the sentence (by replacing ”know” with aware), for me the sentence makes sense, and much easier for me to practice forgiveness. It’s because they are not/were not aware of how they may have hurt me and how that actually hurts them too (by adding consequence to their life and beingness process) because they did not/do not have the skills, and proper education to be aware of themselves and the impact their words/behaviors/actions have on people in the long-run.

So this, to me, is more clear now after working from the original sentence, and I feel much better about it.

To learn more about redefining words, please check out: SOUL – School of Ultimate Living


Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

Self Honesty Extracted through Music – 310

People, travel, holidays and adventure concept. Rear view of young woman with long loose hair walking on city street at sunset wearing hat and coat, enjoying happy pleasant moment of her vacationsToday I was listening to a particular song I really connect to. The lyrics, rhythm and voice of the individual move me. I decided to look at what are the specific words that come from this song and they are: Self Honesty, Real(ness) and Grounded.

As a side note – authenticity and sincerity are words I’ve been exploring within myself for quite some time. I especially resonate and connect with people, projects and things that are more real, honest and raw because to be honest that is refreshing to me. I’m the type of person who likes to just cut to the point, no need to be fake or hide what you need/want and this song Brace by Twin Shadow exudes just that. The singer is real and raw in his lyrics, and to me – self honest. At least this is how I interpreted it and assisted me to redefine self honesty –

Which also coincides with a project from the Desteni community of this week – which is:
+ to share your definition or understanding of the principle of self honesty
+ how do I practically live self honesty in my life
+ what is your process insight with walking this process with self-honesty within and without of self in the Desteni I Process

I have defined Self Honesty as a self-reflection, a talking-to to myself about what I am going through, alone/individually as me.

So it’s not about what I think about others or imagining what others have done or what they may say about me… it’s about how I’m experiencing myself, alone. What is going on IN ME/my mind self in the moment. To be that feedback point of myself as a check in on what I am truly really thinking about and experiencing inside.

How I am practically living it is when I see myself think about other people (ie: what they may be doing or thinking about me) I stop and ask myself what am I doing here, like a talking to myself, and will identify what I am in – like spite or judgement for example. Then the next step is forgiving or looking more into the point to see what is behind it (ie: ah I find this point unforgivable which is why im so spiteful towards this person in my head and what they’ve done…) so then it gives me that opportunity to come clean with the point and see how I can resolve it. 

 

…more to come!

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

Projecting My Traits Unto Another & The Insight – 308

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Photo by Mitch Lensink on Unsplash

There is a woman in my life whom I react to. She to me is desperate, trying to find her ground and thus fails at being herself/authentic. Basically because she doesn’t know who she is. I react to her especially because I seem to be a trigger point for her where when I post something that is in competition with her project, she’ll post something to keep going. I am of course projecting all of this, as I cannot tell you 100% if what I am claiming is true, because I am not nor was ever in this woman’s shoes – I am merely INTERPRETING her.

Interestingly enough, when I see women I feel I am in competition with, post or share something, I want or usually take what they post, see what I can learn from it and make my post/work better. So I use them to catapult my success. BUT underneath MY MOVEMENT is fear.

Fear of falling out of line and no longer being in the popularity game. Fear of being out-won or less popular than my competition. Fear of my competition gloating and boasting and becoming egotistical thinking they’re better than me and seeing themselves like that. All aspects I live within that I’m projecting.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear woman I don’t like, become more popular than me in social media.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that just because on is popular on social media does not mean they are popular and as well liked or loved in real life, where I realize when I made it to 12k followers I have never felt more alone, which shows it’s not about the number of followers or friends – but about who I am, and how I have not given me the chance or opportunity to develop a like/love towards me, and me alone.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not be sure how to like me, separating myself from the word like because of a negative feel towards it – how I actually don’t like the word like because that to me means you’re bonded to something eternally if you like something, instead of realizing likes change over the years/moments/days and that I don’t have to ‘like’ all of me, because honestly I don’t – I don’t like all parts of me. So I realize I can use the word LIKE to cross-reference where in me am I not liking something about myself – like a habit, character trait, personality, etc and find ways/means to change it so I do like it/me.

Like can be practically used.

I commit myself to use the word LIKE as a cross-reference to see what I like about myself, and what I don’t like about myself.

I commit myself to strengthen my confidence by recognizing the genuine quality, traits and expressions I exude that I LIKE about myself, though being humble in not nor never comparing or seeing myself more than towards others.

I commit myself to utilize the word LIKE to pinpoint aspects of me I don’t like I can then work on to change me into an individual I am proud and happy in.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

300. Being in My Original Home & Culture – Part 3, Being an Equal Participant in Conversations

priscilla-du-preez-234138Something I noticed while being with friends and family on my trip, is that people do SEE me – and may be able to see parts of me I’m not yet aware of, so I’ve been pushing to become more aware of myself around others, and question who I am with them.

This realization came forth after having a friend reveal to me she was concerned about my weight loss the months before I moved but was too afraid to say anything. Then another friend was happy I quit my job because she saw how unhappy I was but wasn’t sure if she should say anything. So there I saw that people are aware of things I may not want them to be aware of or see, but it’s there in reality. People do probably see more of me than I may realize but don’t say anything…

So – just the other day I realized I have a tendency to kind of sit back and let people talk, and just be there to agree with them, or nod or make short comments without much conversing / engaging myself. I sort of place myself in the back seat in conversations with people, as if I’m not as important as them.

I notice this behavior when my cousin was talking the majority of the time and having my mom sit next to me acting in the same manner, I saw I took this point on from / through her. In that moment I decided I didn’t want to be like that – I wanted to show my cousin I was also an equal participant in the conversation, because if I share and add onto the conversation I am also showing another I am interested and here with them. This I would also like for myself – to have someone equally engaging / talking / being here with me in a conversation.

So I’ve been practicing the words share and engage – where I try to find windows of opportunities in conversation that I relate to / connect with, and share who I am with it, or a story or something – that way I am making my presence known and being with the people in the conversation…showing them ”hey I’m here with you guys, also sharing!!”

My cousin for example was talking about the type of beef we were eating, and I added in how my partner was just today asking where to get such beef in the city, and then the conversation continued and more people joined in. So it was cool to get the ball rolling and people sharing and adding their input / perspectives and not just keeping it at a standstill.

It’s been an interesting process so far because: before speaking / sharing I have to push through some initial shyness and resistance, but I push because I want to prove to myself I CAN engage in a conversation, I CAN be here with others, and make my presence known – showing people I am with them in the convo, being an equal participant, and enjoying myself in it.

 

Recommended Resources:

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

296. Redefining & Living the word NURTURE

guilherme-stecanella-370459The way that I start redefining a word is using my voice: I first make sure I have no expectations or ideas of what the new definition of the word will be and then sound the word – I speak the word out-loud as is and then use my body to see what the word says to me.

For example with the word nurture: When I spoke it out-loud I could feel how me and my body experienced the word – it is like a falling back into something comforting that is always there — as if you were to fall back and something will always catch you – that kind of support. I then looked where in my world is something like that and found Self-Forgiveness is like that – it is an eternal tool of support that will always be there, and that I can use it whenever I feel scared or down or upset or chaotic or uncertain in myself.

So then I basically redefined Nurture as the self-forgiveness principle – a tool / placement of support always there to be utilized when I need strength / guidance / support. Then how I started living it was – when I would feel chaotic / overwhelmed in myself, I would apply Self-Forgiveness that would support me in gaining self-strength / guidance / realization. Then interestingly enough I got the flu that week when I applied the word. It seemed like Life was testing me with what nurture is in physical reality 🙂 

So this sounding of the word application is what I do now with other words I want to redefine and live. So far I redefined the words Writing, Patience, and Resistance  – and each one is very unique and unlike anything I ever expected.

I feel like now I’m finally getting the process of redefining and living words. Before I really struggled with it, but then allowed myself to try other ways and means to see how I can practically live and understand it. So far the sounding-way seems to be working, and I keep a physical notebook with me where I document the new words and how I’m going to practically live it in my life. This allows me to go back and adjust/tweak the words and my living as needed.

Please check out the material on SOUL for more explanations and guidance on how to redefine and live WORDS.

 

Recommended Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation