Day 303: Seeing Beyond the Bad & Re-Balancing

mike-wilson-310597As I walking my Mind Construct through the Desteni I Process, I came upon a point that really struck me: It was how narrow minded I had become in seeing or believing only the ”bad” about someone — essentially staying stuck in a limited frame of mind, and not giving myself the opportunity to really LOOK at the person and see the multi dimensional aspects of them because they are more than what we define of them.

We don’t know who or what they are like alone with themselves or with their family or animals. But we have this tendency to want to stick to an idea we have about them because it then makes us feel justified and we stay stuck in this justification because it feeds a certain personality or experience or belief we have about ourselves.

Like for me staying stuck in the belief this person is a “horrible teacher” and justifying this belief by re-playing all the bad scenes or things they’ve done to me or with the students, instead of allowing myself to see beyond that and CONSIDER that there is more than what I saw and believe — but a part of me doesn’t want to knowledge that or see beyond my limited perception of them otherwise I will be challenged and my comfort zone will be challenged.

I also realize: If I allow myself to see and recognize the “good” and / or other aspects of me, I show myself that I am more than the bad I see…I am so much more.

Yes – the “bad” needs to be confronted and changed, but the good has to be strengthened just as well – equally so – in a consistent way so that a healthy balance is established within me.

So a new activity I will look into and start is how to practically balance the good/strengths and bad/weaknesses within me, so I am working equally on both of them and not focusing on just one aspect, because then I would only suppress and ignore the other – so both need to be faced and worked on to establish a healthy base for myself.

 

Recommended Resources:

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

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253. My Relationship with Sleep

photo-1455026733626-d2d31efe4976The Problem: It is still difficult for me to get up from bed when I have planned to get up earlier to work on some tasks. These tasks are specific to me expanding in myself and my process from consciousness to awareness, but there is almost zero motivation to get up from it, because me in bed is sooo much more comfortable, and that experience supersedes getting up and doing my things.

The reason why I am taking on this point now is because I truly do want to wake up early to work on these tasks, since they are supportive in fulfilling commitments I made to myself and also fit in well with my daily schedule, where if I do 1 major self-supportive task in the morning before work, it opens up more time in the evening for me to work on other self-supportive tasks. So it is also me trying to balance my schedule to include everything I want to do in my day, and in order to do that I need to wake up earlier to do this.

But the comfortability is what I allow to get in the way from waking up, and moving myself.  Behind it is also resistance: I don’t want to get up and do this, I want to stay in bed where it’s warm and comfortable. 

Solution: Identify the mind triggers and experiences that I allow myself to fall into not getting up from a comfortable state in bed and the desire to go back to sleep. That prevent me from taking a breath, embracing the new day and getting up.

*One reason I see is because I have not made peace or resolved issues the day before, so instead of waking up refreshed and ready to embrace and walk my day, I still carry the ”burdens” and problems from yesterday. Solution: Find time and space before bed to walk and direct any problems. Because if I don’t resolve that is another reason to want to stay in bed, so to not face the issues from the day before. 

Self-Forgiveness:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow mental and physical comfortability of staying and sleeping in bed to superseded commitments I made for myself to do in the morning

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I don’t deal with and resolve issues and points from yesterday (last night) then I will bring it with me the next day and it will influence how I get up, whereas if I had problems I could not find direction/solutions to I would most likely like to hide them in sleep as much as possible

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing my day, and facing the problems, fears and points I do not understand and have given direction to, not realizing the more I do not face and direct points, the more I resist waking up and facing myself and my day, and the less empowered and self-directed I will become, and I actually truly want to become a self-empowered, self-directive being

I realize in order to become this self-empowered, self-directive being who actually LIVES, I must face every fear, and every issue in me. I realize it is fear that I’ve allowed to prevent me from moving on and embracing my day/my life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use sleep as an escape mechanism to hide me from my insecurities and fears that I face and automatically suppress in my daily life, instead of finding ways and support to face, understand and direct these fears

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I allow fears and insecurities from the day before effect how I stand up and move the next day/morning, I am communicating to myself, to my body and to everyone in general I am allowing fears and insecurities to define me, to direct and influence me instead of me as self-directive principle

Self-Commitment Statements:

I commit myself to become my own support buddy, finding solutions, tools and creative ways to face fears and insecurities I have during my daily life, that way I expand, develop and grow into a more self-directive, confident being

I commit myself to find the space and time before bed to walk through any specific fears or insecurities I may have that may affect who I am tomorrow/the next day, since I truly want to LIVE and not have fears and insecurities drive me in my life anymore

I commit myself to stop allowing fears and insecurities to drive and define me, by stopping the communication I give to myself, to others that fears and insecurities are more than me, which I communicate through hiding in sleep, or suppressing in my day, and now I take my self-power back by facing each point and directing them to the best of my ability 

I commit myself to find the time and space the day before to walk/direct any priority points/issues so I can have a good rest and be able to wake up the next day able and have the mind set to continue what I committed to do, embracing the new day

Will continue with more…

 

Additional Resources:

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Journey to Life Blogs – Walking the 7 Year Journey to Life

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Relationship Course – Redefining Relationships

 

 

246. Dealing with Difficult People – EQAFE Review

eqafe dealing with difficult people

I’ve been having difficulty with a particular co-worker for some time and when the EQAFE recording titled “Dealing with Difficult People” came out I immediately jumped to download it.

It was very cool to listen and understand the perspectives given in this audio feature, because the fact that I was having difficulty with this co-worker wasn’t just about “them” but who I was with them and that I had a responsibility in my relationship with them too.

Usually when problems arise in relationships we tend to quickly blame and believe that it’s the other’s fault, not even looking or considering our responsibility within the matter. I know when I was in the presence with my co-worker and problems or emotional conflict towards them would happen, I use to think they are THEY are the one making my job experience difficult and stressful… placing blame on something I am experiencing internally.

In the recording “Dealing with Difficult People,” insights and solutions were presented on how one can essentially be a solution for oneself and the difficult person.

From this, I was able to apply what the recording suggested and my relationship with my co-worker has definitely stabilized and become better.  Whenever my co-worker behaves in a specific way (a way I use blame them for making my work experience difficult), I breathe and apply the suggestions from the EQAFE recording.

To sum this up, listening to the “Dealing with Difficult People” recording was a very enlightening and educational experience for me and from this, I was able to use the techniques and insights given in the audio that allowed me to create a better and more stable relationship with my co-worker.


For more information on the recording, please click the photo below:dealing with difficult people eqafe