From Jealousy to Practical Living – 325

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I was watching a TV show a month ago, and there appeared a woman who was a yoga teacher, smiling and expressing herself. Immediately within me, I was jealous of her. Here she was bubbly, friendly-looking, while also exuding a calm and laid-back attitude. The point that she was a yoga teacher and the exercise supported her to be such a way was something I truly desired and wanted to be/do.

I had let go of daily yoga practice quite a while ago to allow work to get in the way of my self-care and wellbeing. Because of this, I noticed a dip in my mood as well as weight gain and overall feeling unwell in myself and my process. I dropped something that truly benefited me in exchange for an addiction to work.

The TV show and person, triggered me to look at a potential I was not accessing and using to my advantage. The potential that – I can get back to daily, or weekly yoga practice because that particular movement/exercise has been most nourishing for me, and my life, time and time again.

I remember specifically before I saw the show, I had a chat with my DIP buddy discussing jealousy and what that means, as well as reading Anna’s Instagram post on using jealousy as a means to do what you see in another.

So from this support combined I took action and decided to start my yoga practice again –  just doing a practice I’m comfortable with and can handle, which was at the start, a 15-minute morning yoga exercise. Then gradually it became a 40-minute practice.

Day to day I take it slow and easy on myself, doing yoga in the mornings, as it was the best and most convenient time for me. I would check in with the YouTube videos to see which one I was interested in doing that day, depending on how I’m doing and how much energy I have.

But I really make sure to do yoga consistently now, because I know how nourishing and supportive it is for me. If I miss a day or even week of doing yoga I know I will always try to it when I can. I know that if there comes a time when I do slip, in not honoring a consistent yoga practice, then I will eventually get back to it.

Thanks, universe for bringing this point forward in me! 🙂

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation of human consciousness/human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – every question answered

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

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Benefit of Pushing through your Comfort Zone – 315

jay-sadoff-1218931-unsplash.jpgI am back visiting my parents and it’s been interesting to settle into a routine and see old patterns emerge after a few days being back with them. One of the patterns I’ve been experiencing is a resistance to not share myself and my day with them. Like at the dinner table, I preferred to stay in my comfort zone of processing my day in my mind and just be in there eating.

But I saw specifically at the dinner table a point emerge in me where I wanted to share and express something about my day but saw the physical movement I had to do to do it. LOL and I reacted to the physical effort of having to speak! But since seeing it, I pushed through it anyway to see what would come. I actually wanted to share myself to my parents because I thought this could support in the development of our relationship as well. In a DIP buddy chat some time ago my buddy asked me what kind of relationship I want to develop with my parents which supported me to see the creation aspect one can create with another (that relationships don’t have to be stagnant but can do something more with them).

So at that dinner table, I shared information of what me and my partner did, and it was really like having to push through hard waters to do so, but once I shared, I got a response, and had to push myself again to share more. The backchat of ‘there is no point, this doesn’t matter, they don’t care tried to bring me down and they made the resistance stronger, but as I kept talking, they dissipated and I discovered my mom likes knowing what I did on my day!

So just a little note to myself to continue to share more of me and what I’ve done and learned with my mom as she has shown as genuine interest in me and my day. That pushing through the comfort zone of not wanting to talk at the dinner table is worth it as it supports in the building of my relationship with my mom – as well as relationship with me in showing me I can break limitations!

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

An Overload of Distraction Pleasures the Mind but Not Our Potentials – 314

jed-villejo-647973-unsplashRecently I realized how there is an overwhelming amount of distractions for us. Especially for me and those living in a elite positions where we have access to an unlimited selection of tv shows and movies at one’s disposal – not to mention high speed internet where one can go on and do whatever they want on there.

I’ve been questioning me and my position as an ‘elite’ lately. Meaning, me as someone who can – and does live at times – overly-indulgently. How essentially living and being in such a position is quite a good trap for the world system and consciousness in keeping us preoccupied by indulging constantly in these luxurious.

Like I have access to three tv streaming services, with a plethora of my favorite shows. It is almost too easy to just indulge and forget everything, and I am beginning to look at how these streaming services are designed to keep us elite humans entertained and happy while we forget and lose touch with the real problems going on in the world. There was a specific research article once that said those who are unhappy watch the most TV…

I see that it is us as the collectives fault within all of this. We are becoming a society where everything is given to us so quickly, and almost ‘free’ in a way that we forget what it means to create things with OUR OWN HANDS. Everything we seem to touch is a distraction and a way to divert ourselves and the mind from what we are really going through within.

Additionally –  it dawned on me that if I can’t sleep I’ll watch TV. I figured out it was a way for me to avoid things going on in me. It’s just too easy to try and divert yourself and problems by watching something engaging and entertaining, while the  things within are still not being resolved and will still affect me the coming day – until I do something about it, or I walk into my own consequence.

This is certainly a wake up call for me and I hope other people too when it comes to being more aware of who we are with the amount of entertainment, social media and online distractions we are participating in – as means to feel something other than what we are feeling within. To become more aware of why we are going to our phones, picking up the remote, or watching a movie and see how we can balance that out entertainment with practical work like taking care of the home, and oneself by figuring out how to deal with personal problems.

For me, the era of overly self-indulgence is coming to an end. I know I have a lot of work to do, and I don’t want to continue neglecting things that truly need to be taken care of. Will let you know how it goes! Thanks for reading.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

Imagination Impressions & Physical Reality – 312

david-fanuel-620585-unsplashDo you ever daydream or imagine doing something impressive and then when you physically do the action its far different than what you imagined?

Something I’d like to share is that some time ago I imagined me dancing well to a particular song, believing that I could do well since I have background experience in dance.

Then when I actually watched a tutorial on how to dance to the song and physically tried out the moves I was hit by surprise to see how what I believed would be easy was not. I fumbled around with my arms and body trying to mimjc the dancer in the video. Reality gave me a taste of what is REAL because what I THOUGHT I was good at got totally squished when I applied this thought to physical reality.

Which is yet again another indication for me on how important it is to cross reference myself by physical living and actions. That if I for example believe myself to be nice it must be proven in the physical by how nice I take care of myself, my body and others. So physical reality really is that point of absolute truth of me and all of us really.

So this is a short blog on a realization I had that has helped me see nothing is in fact true unless proven and shown in reality. What I THINK and BELIEVE about myself, who I am and what I can do can only be validated if it is lived and proven in the physical.

 

Additional Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Destonians – Chat with people from all over the world walking the Desteni process

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Desteni I Process – Life Skills & Self-Mastery Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

Day 301: Starting Somewhere

michael-dam-258165About a year ago I requested a private interview through EQAFE about my position working with children and what to do with my life. My beingness came through and basically emphasized to me to just start somewhere – do something to get my ”feet wet” and exploring, and if I end up not liking what I’m doing then I try something else, OR something else may open up that I prefer to go into.

So it was through those words ”just start somewhere,” and realizing just because I start somewhere doesn’t mean I’ll forever be locked in it, but that by starting somewhere will allow me to get to other doors I can walk into / explore as well …

And so – I utilized that support and now a year later I am now moving into a direction that I am really excited about – something  I couldn’t have predicted or imagined but I got here because I took a step and I did something – I started to stay after school tutoring children for free with some behavioral issues. Over time, through walking this I was able to find more of where my passions lay, and a goal I would like to bring into manifestation within the coming years.

My partner who struggled with what to do with himself is also starting to find more of a direction. He began dabbling in painting and martial arts, and by getting involved in these activities, he is creating exceptional work and creating his own martial arts process (noting down his realizations in a notebook he would like to publish in a blog someday and make something out of it).

All of this with what my partner and I walked couldn’t have happened without a couple of things:

  1. From the support of beings through the Portal – through EQAFE / individual consultations from them and through people in the Desteni community. They helped us settle a foundation within ourselves.
  2. The decision within ourselves to do it – to do something – even if it as small as picking up your head and going to that class 3 times a week, or staying at work an additional 3 hours 3 times a week to help out children to see if this is an area you want to work in… it really does come down to deciding on something to do, even if it is small, and just do it – commit to maybe 30 days or a month of doing it consistently to see / assess if this is something you want to do. But do SOMETHING because you may never know where life will take you.

I also want to recommend the interview From Drifter to Settler on EQAFE. Anu talks specifically about just getting out and doing something – no matter how simple it is. So he really confirmed the support I got a year ago through the Portal – and he is saying it this time for the public!!!

So as a person who started simple, you can do it too!! And if you need any help in deciding what to do or what to start with, just write to me 🙂

 

Recommended Resources:

EQAFE.com – The Library of Existence – extraordinary material

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

291. Opening Yourself & Others Through Sharing

rawpixel-com-351766Today a friend of mine told me that her favorite subject in school was biology and her plan is to go to school to study more into it.  Later on that evening I asked myself the question: what subject did I like most in school? I scanned my memories from middle school – high school and saw “nothing” – more of a ‘dislike’ of school in general due to my shyness and relationship to the education system. So I moved to my college years and identified two subjects: a Persuasion class where we studied Greek philosophers and techniques on how to persuade people / the masses, and a Family communication class. 

From this I shared with my partner a memory of an assignment I had to do in my Family Communication class – I had to ask a family member to “rate” my physical attractiveness and my partner and I discussed how fucked up the assignment was (LOL). Then we discussed how we would respond as parents if our child had us do this assignment…we got the ball rolling discussing this point, and then after some moments of pause my partner then shared a memory from his time in high school and then we talked about that. Then I realized he was sharing a memory / time from his school days – a topic I use to request to please share but he’d draw a blank.

To explain more: I use to, in a way “force” or push my partner to share memories of when he was at school, because I was curious who he was at that time, but it was unnatural and my guy didn’t know what to say. This is similar to when me and him were on the Desteni farm and would ask people “tell me a story about Bernard” and they wouldn’t have a story – it was only when they shared themselves that a memory or timeline of something Bernard said or did would come up and they’d share. 

So I learned you can’t really force people to share something that is not HERE — the sharing must come naturally and by the decision of the person (whether they want to share in the first place or not). 

Featured Recording in Relation to this Blog: Sharing Ourselves in Conversations – Life Review

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In our lives and in our relationships with other people, we have developed the way that we communicate quite strangely: We tend to speak only about ourselves, about our own opinions and views, so that conversations become a competition wherein each person is trying to make their opinion the dominant one that squashes all other people’s opinions.

What would our interactions be like if we stopped this cycle and actually started to actively listen to and hear what other people have to say – and not just pretend to?

Purchase the recording here.

 

 

 

Recommended Resources:

Desteni.org – Research and investigation on human consciousness / human nature

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation

287. Dropping Ideas of People & Getting to Know Yourself

averie-woodard-111832Perhaps we watch someone on Youtube or see photos of people and over time create these ideas and assumptions of who they are and must be in reality, but then we actually meet them we see so many other expressions and aspects of them.

I had a cool burst of my bubble as of late where I didn’t realize I had these ideas of certain people living on the Desteni Farm – like ideas of their expression and who they are as a person. It was through actually meeting them and spending time with them did I get to see other aspects and expressions of them I hadn’t even considered or seen before which actually supported me to see how limited I was in my perception of these people.

For example, let’s say you had the idea that this person is really tough and that was all you saw and thought of them to be, but then meeting them you realize they have a soft side to them.

So from realizing this that I tend to see people quite narrowly, by only categorizing them into a few words, this allowed me to see that I am also limiting myself in me, where I define me quite narrowly as well, like a few expressions instead of exploring more expressions of me.

I also want to add that upon meeting these people a part of me/my mind did not want to accept these other expressions I saw in them… a part of me didn’t want to let go of the ideas I had and ACCEPT the NEW… the REALITY.

So I would suggest for anyone reading this is if you have these ideas and assumptions of how a person is – drop them and actually talk to them more, get to know them, expand your awareness and understanding of them, as well as equally understanding where are you limiting in yourself in believing you are only this and this kind of person… and to see what other expressions we can develop or be in who we are.

So from this I will explore more of these self-definitions I’ve been holding onto of me and seeing what words I can use to develop myself.

Suggested Resources:

EQAFE.com – Self-Perfection Merchandise

School of Ultimate Living – Life Creation through Words

DIP Lite – Free Self-Development Course

Self & Living – Fresh Insights into Self- Empowerment & Lifestyle Creation