I wanted to share briefly about a realization I’ve had recently. It’s the point of knowing people’s weaknesses and using them against the person as a means of control.
This came up because I have encountered individuals, who have shown me over time, that unfortunatly would try and use my sensitivity and weakness to turn things into their favor. They would use certain words, expressions, or plain out give me the silent treatment because they knew it would make me uncomfortable. They did this as a means to make me break down into fear in order to control me.
I also know for a fact that in the beginning of my relationship with my partner, when we have a conflict, I would bring up their past mistakes to justify my reasoning and weaken them to try to win. I remember in an EQAFE recording they mentioned this was a big no-no because it only fuels spite and not understanding and resolution. It took a lot of me and a visit to the Desteni Farm to reprogram myself with this point.
I know now for a fact that if there is a conflict, and the individual ”wins” in having weakened their ”opponent” where the opponent is so hurt or in pain or can’t defend themselves, that both of them lose. Because they are both existing within a form of polarity – of winner and loser, superiority and inferiority. Not everyone and what is best for them is taken into consideration. This is the old world paradigm way of life. This I don’t buy or give into anymore.
For a new paradigm of life, everyone wins. Conflicts end when there is a direction and solution that is healthy and best for both people. It takes everyone and everything involved into consideration. This is what I see when it comes to Equality and Oneness as Life.
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