I got invited to a birthday brunch today. Before such event I get a little nervous, not knowing what to expect, but then I re-mind myself I’ve been in these situations before and actually enjoy chatting and getting along with other people, and with that trust I calm down.
There was one women I was unsure of at the event — I didn’t know if she had a problem with me, and I had the idea she didn’t like me because of one behavior, but because I knew this kind of thinking (of whether she liked me or not) was a habit I usually obsess over, I utilized support from my partner to let it go and if she is there, simply say hi and I don’t have to talk to her (in other words, I don’t have to force myself to talk to her because of a need to please her or make her my friend).
Funny how things worked cause she ended up sitting next to me, and I was surprised at how different she was in comparison to the ideas I had about her. I found that the common ground between us was children — that she has a daughter and that I work in a school with children her’s daughters age, so I initiated a conversation about that and it turned out to be a cool chat where she gave me some information about the city I’m living in that I can now utilize in my life.
I was surprised by the helpful information I got from her, because I wasn’t expecting it, and from this I’ve realized that every new person I talk to in some way gives me a gift — whether it’s a connection to a job, or a person, or a new piece of information about the city I’m living in, every person I have interacted with has in some way given me something I can take and utilize to make improvements in my life.
So I suggest for everyone to not isolate oneself from people, because when you meet and chat with people you can gain information that may benefit your life, as well as serve as a connection to another person or to an opportunity. Find that little courage to simply go for it, strike up a conversation with someone, even if it’s a ”how are you?” and see where that leads. See where there is common ground, what the both of you can talk about. What you can relate to. This is especially important for people who live in a new city or town, to make connections and friends because it is through people you can gain information that can assist you in living a more comfortable life in a new environment.
I met with people I wouldn’t normally hang out with if I lived my old life back in the states but circumstances brought us together and we all have common ground when it comes to being of similar nationalities and cultures in a European city. This is what establishes connections and it feels good to have a network of people to go to for questions and support and to simply share the ups and downs. Meeting these people also helped me learn more about my city, got me in contact with certain people and really assisted me in making my new life comfortable.
But the key is you must be willing to open up and share with people. Not everything, but whatever you are comfortable within the topic and from this, points and information will open up you could never have predicted that can benefit you and your life.
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