224: To Become a Leader…

I got the chance to organize an event for international women to come together, meet and make new friends at a nice restaurant. Since I was the organizer I got there early and planned to make sure I greet everyone who comes, as well as say goodbye, and get to know as many women as I could. This opportunity also allowed me to make new friends in the city I am living in, which is really cool!

So, there are many points I’d like to share that I have discovered and realized when I attended this event, but I will take one point and write about it in its own post blog over a series of blog about becoming a leader, or an effective organizer of a group. Because since I am the leader/creator/organizer of the group, I realize I have a lot of responsibility, not only from a managerial side, but from a standing-within-principle side, where it is my duty and responsibility to treat each member of this group the way I would like to be treated, and to become the organizer/leader of the group that stands within principles of what is best for all. This means, no judging of any member, speaking within support and never gossip, accepting and welcoming all who are interested, and stopping any form of comparison or competition within me.

Because I have seen these points come up in my face as I interacted with the ladies in the group. I saw how my mind went into judgement, into comparison, into not feeling good enough/self esteem issues, into worry about people not liking me, into competition towards other woman… points that I saw that are not cool and not what should exist in an organizer/leader of a group.

I met with an individual the other day and thought that they were very judgmental and it made me realize that I don’t want to be like that as a person/leader. Then later someone assisted me to see how I within that had actually done exactly that — I was judging the other person for judging, which I didn’t see when I was in the situation –  thus showing me exactly that what I had seen in another still exists in myself and I could confirm the realization that: that this is not the kind of leader I want to be, and  I still have work to do in myself to create myself as the leader I want to be.

So — I am going to from here on start a blog series focusing on becoming and creating myself into an organizer/leader that stands and exists within the principles of what is best for all.

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Day 217: How Too Much Thinking Causes Headaches

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Today I listened to a really interesting audio recording from EQAFE on the brain and how we create headaches due to thinking.

Is it really amazing and fascinating at the same time to listen to how we are basically the creators of our headaches, that it is from our own participation, acceptance and allowance of thoughts from deep-seated emotions that create such pains within our own brains to the extent that our body communicates to us through headaches.

We so easily take a pill and get on with our life, but the more we allow this, the more this issue, or point that is deeply suppressed within comes out again, either through more headaches, or other consequences within our bodies.

So I saw how I have conditioned myself to basically take medicine or natural medicinal support for my body whenever a headache would strike. Now since listening to the audio recording I have knowledge on the steps to take to actually heal and treat a headache for good.

In a way I am ”looking forward” to when a headache comes again to walk the path suggested to see for myself what I can find and discover of me that I’ve been suppressing/hiding so I can understand and clear the point finally, that way when I face a similar point in the future I can apply the immediate correction before a headache starts. I will definitely share with you all about my findings!

This is going to be a short blog, but I do recommend you check this recording out if you are interested in learning more about how thinking effects the brain and how to heal your headache without medicine. 

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Day 193: My Declaration of Principle

Here are the commitments of Destonian Principles that I am walking so I become them totally. It is a declaration and commitment of what it means to be a Destonian and the principles one lives by.

As I continue to walk my Journey to life blog I will in time take one point/principle and write it within how I see it/interpret it, and show how I applied it or will apply it practically in my world.

1.    Realising and living my utmost potential

2.    Living by the principle of what is best for all – guiding me in thought, word and deed to always in all ways direct problems to the best possible outcome for all

3.    Living by the principle of self honesty – to ensure I am pure in thought, word and deed: that my within and without is equal and one. Who I am within is who I am without and vice-versa

4.    Self Purification through Writing, Self Forgiveness and Self Application – the action of realising I am responsible for my own thoughts, words and deeds, to forgive myself for transgressions and change myself to ensure I take responsibility for who, what and how I am and through this know that I can trust myself to always be honest with me and so others

5.    Living the principle of Self Responsibility – realising only I am responsible for what I accept and allow inside of me, my relationships and my outside world and so with this responsibility: only I have the power and ability to change that which I see is compromising who I am, what I live and how this affects others

6.    Realising that who I am in thought, word and deed affects not only myself – but others as well and so with Self Responsibility in thought, word and deed – I take responsibility for myself and so my relationships to be Self Aware in every moment  and live in such a way that is best for me and so others as well

7.    Living the Principle of Self Awareness – to be aware, to see, to recognize my own thoughts and Mind, to be self honest to the extent where I can take responsibility for when I see my thoughts / Mind is not what is best for me / others and commit to immediately take responsibility and change for myself and so for others

8.    With taking responsibility for myself, becoming aware of myself – take responsibility and become aware of others in my life, to assist and support them as I am assisting and supporting myself – to give as you would like to receive and do the extra bit every day to see where I can contribute to other’s lives and so my own

9.    Living the principle of self trust – as I commit myself to remain constant in my living of self honesty, self responsibility and self awareness, I stand as an unbending trust that I always in all ways know who I am no matter what I face and that in this I know, as proven in the constancy of my living that I will always honour and stand by what is best for all and so best for me

10.    Making Love Visible – through me not accepting/allowing anything less than my utmost potential, I support those in my life to reach their utmost potential, to love them as I have shown love to myself by gifting to me my utmost potential, the best life/living experience and show others as I have shown myself what is means to LIVE

11.    No one can save you, save yourself – the realisation that the tools and principles of Desteni is the guide, but I must walk the path myself. We are here to assist and support each other in this process from Consciousness to Awareness/LIFE and what it means to live – but the process itself, where you are alone with yourself in your own Mind: is walked alone

12.    Not waiting for anything or anyone to take responsibility for me and this world – but that I realise I have created who and how I am in this moment, therefore I have the responsibility to change who and how I am and so the realisation that we as a collective created how and what this world is today and so it is the responsibility of the collective to change how and what this world is today

13.    Honouring the life in each person, animal – everything from the great to the small of earth, that we expand our awareness and responsibility to creating the best possible life for everyone and everything and so ourselves

14.    Relationships as Agreements: individuals coming together using agreements as a platform to one-on-one expand, grow and develop as individuals in life and living to support/assist each other unconditionally to reach their utmost potential where the agreement is a coming together of individuals understanding what it means to stand as equals and to stand as one

15.    Sex as Self Expression – where sex is an united expression between individuals in honour, respect, consideration and regard of each other as equals, two physical bodies uniting in equality and oneness – a merging of two equals as one physically.

16.    Realising that by the virtue of me being in this world – my responsibility does not only extend to my own Mind / my own Life, but to the minds and lives of everything and everyone of this earth and so my commitment is to extend this awareness to all of humanity to work together and live together to make this world heaven on earth for ourselves and the generations to come

17.    I must in my thoughts, words and deeds – but most importantly in my living actions, become a living example for others in my world that is noticeable and visible when it comes to the potential of a person to change themselves and so change their world. So that more people can realise how we can change this world, by standing united in our self change within the principle of what is best for all to bring heaven to earth

18.    I am the change I want to see in me and my world – to bring heaven to earth is to bring into being, into living the LIVING PROOF of a PRACTICAL HEAVEN that can be seen and heard in our actions and words. We are the Living Heaven that must come into creation in this living world.

19.    Through purifying my thoughts, words and deeds – my inner becomes my outer, so I bring into creation me as heaven into earth, realising it is not enough to ‘see the change / be the change’ – for change to become REAL it must be a constant, consistent living of me through the words I speak and the actions I live visible and noticeable to all in every moment of breath

20.    Realising that my physical body is my temple – my physical body is the living flesh through which and in which I will bring into being and create / manifest heaven on earth as me in my thoughts, words and deeds and so I honour, respect and regard – nurture and support my physical body as I would nurture and support me as equals: my body is me

21.    We are the change in ourselves and this world we have been waiting for: and so I commit to dedicate myself and my life for each one as all to realise this, as nothing will change if we don’t change in all that we are, within and without

22.    The realisation that for me to be able to change myself in thought, word and deed to the most effective living being that I can be and become – I first have to ‘know thyself’ and so commit myself to investigate, introspect and understand how I became who I am today, to prepare the road before me into self creation of a responsible, aware, self honest and trustworthy person for myself and so for all

23.    The realisation that for me to be able to contribute to change in this world – I have to get to ‘know thyself’ as this world and so commit myself to research, investigate and introspect the inner and outer workings of this world and align the systems of today to present and give the best possible life for all on Earth

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Day 189: Redefining The Word Consistent

Self-Forgiveness:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe I can never be equal or capable of being consistent within application of walking my process.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to lack “faith” or certainty within myself in relation to being able to walk my process consistently

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define me as being inconsistent and thus being consistent is going to be impossible because I am already ‘inconsistent’ instead of realizing that I am able to change myself into becoming consistent

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to accept another’s words of me being “inconsistent” as absolute, as “who I am” not realizing they were making a comment on how I structured and walked through my work – that how I was doing it was inconsistent, thus, wasn’t toward me as a being but how I walked through certain points of work, and from this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take another’s words of needing to be “more consistent” with my work personally by believing/thinking that I must be consistent because who I am currently is “inconsistent”

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to accept information from an astrology book that said I am inconsistent because “I am a Virgo” and did not ever acknowledge or look to see within me to question this point/information of myself so I can realize I don’t have to define myself according to what a book/information says

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel comforted with a positive energy experience within me when someone told me I need to be more consistent because I immediately blamed me being inconsistent according to my astrological sign as the reason why I am the way I am – that my inconsistency was a result of my sign, not me instead of realizing how I had been using my sign as a backdoor not to take responsibility for my process and walk my process consistently on a moment to moment basis

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to doubt applying consistently in my process because I fear messing up instead of realizing that to become consistent I must practice, learn, not be too hard on myself, and not expect myself to be somewhere or at some level of consistency within my process because what is supportive for me is to apply corrective application and/or give direction to me when I see me participating in my mind every time and thus if there is a problem and I find myself not applying myself within/as consistently self-honestly I go back to the drawing board to see where I need to support myself more, what do I need to change, understand and/or work on more

After walking my Self-Forgiveness, the way I see consistency in relation to walking my process is that in every moment of breath, every moment I am aware I apply myself into and as self-change. I understand that doing and becoming absolutely consistent will become real when I walk my process as consistently as I self-honestly can in a way where every time I see me within my mind I apply immediate correction until I eventually accumulate these corrections to a point where I am aware of myself every moment of breath, equal and one with the physical, directing myself when I see it’s necessary/best for all

Sounding of the word:

can-assist-to-see

can-a-syst

con-a-system

How I see walking process consistently is that the more I walk in a way where I immediately apply corrective application or give direction for myself when I see me in my mind, I will in time, begin to stop the systems within me that drive/influence me without my directive principle. This includes the backchats, emotions, energetic attachments to memories…these points within my mind where I am not in control of, I take control of by stopping my participation, applying practical self-commitments/corrective-statements to change in every moment I see me in my mind/am aware of my participation in the mind. So, basically when I see me in my mind I immediately apply self-commitments or give myself direction that will ensure I correct what I just did.

Dictionary definition:
con·sist·en·cy

noun, plural con·sist·en·cies.

1. a degree of density, firmness, viscosity, etc.: The liquid has the consistency of cream.

2. steadfast adherence to the same principles, course, form, etc.: There is consistency in his pattern ofbehavior.

3. agreement, harmony, or compatibility, especially correspondence or uniformity among the parts of acomplex thing: consistency of colors throughout the house.

Being consistent within walking process is also like being steadfast in one’s application, sticking to the principle of what is best for all/self in every moment of breath or of which I am aware of myself and my participation within my mind. So to be consistent, I apply correction for myself everytime I see me in my mind as this is me sticking, living and applying the principle of what is best for all.

New Word Definition of the Word Consistent:

To be consistent is immediately applying the tools of self-support and self-correction when I see me participating in my mind.

How to Practically Apply Consistently within my Process:

When I see myself participating in my mind, I immediately apply corrective application. The correction is what I see best or most supportive for me in that moment which can be one, some or all of the following: breathing, focusing on the physical/what’s here, forgiving myself of the energy attached to what I’m participating in, self-investigation of the point I am participating in within the mind and then self-correction, applying/walking the tools of writing, self-forgiveness and self-corrective application.

Example:

When I see myself experiencing an EMOTION or FEELING, I immediately stop, breathe, forgive myself of the emotion and look to see where this is coming from. From there, I walk to see where I can go with this/what direction should I take with this point so I can understand it, find direction on how to change and no longer have the emotion/feeling direct me because I realize emotions and feelings are energies that come from the MIND, not me

When and as I see myself go into imagination about something or someone, I immediately stop, breathe and identify the energy behind the imagination. I then walk self-forgiveness on the energy to find where it is coming from/what triggered it. Then I find direction/correction for me so I can take responsibility for this point so I don’t participate in this imagination again because I realize if I participate in imagination I am being distracted from what really matters, which is what is going on here in this physical reality

When I see myself participating in backchat, I immediately stop, breathe and forgive myself as that backchat. I look to find the nature behind it to understand where it is coming from and why it exists and direct myself for correction so I do not participate in such backchat again

When I see myself participate in thoughts or memories of the past, I immediately stop, I breathe and identify the energy behind the thought. I then walk self-forgiveness on the energy-thought connection and from there, see where it takes me, what can I learn from it and according direct myself to what I see would support me most.

Note: If I am at work I may not be able to apply these points since I will be busy but what I will do is make note of them and see how I can best direct myself in the moment. Again, will test and see what I can do here.

I understand this will be a learning process. I don’t want to beat myself up or hold expectations of myself if I miss a moment or two, where I am not yet living/being the word “consistent” on an absolute level because I realize to be absolutely consistent is going to take time, but also constant application and correction when I see myself in the mind. So if I do miss that moment or two I continue to walk, learn from what I missed, be more aware of myself and my participation in the mind, correcting and directing myself when I self-honestly can.

I will report back on how I have been applying this word within the next week. Thanks for reading.

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Day 188: Fear of Flying Support

I spent the weekend in another state and thus had to fly. I walked writings in relation to the fear of flying before and realized the best I can do for myself is to relax my body, accept the moment and do my thing/keep busy while flying, because I have no control of the plane. Flying is just another form of transportation, like taking a train or a boat, except you are in the air and experience the occasional turbulence.

About turbulence… this was what I really didn’t like at first, and I would go into instant emotional reactions when I would feel the slightest bumps and dips of the plane and when it became more moderate would go into tons of stress. I began practicing to breathe, to stop projecting what may come and be here, allowing myself to “embrace” the turbulence so to speak, and this assisted and supported me in accepting it, allowing it to come and go. I understand that I can’t do anything about it, so I have to accept it.

Another point is also that I had the tendency to before flying to go into “what-if” scenarios while on the plane ride. After listening to the EQAFE interview Death Research: Plane Crash interviews I learned it’s best not to entertain these fears and I have found this type of participation/entertainment within the mind only perpetuates fear and does absolutely nothing to support me, but actually makes me feel “worse” or more nervous and anxious . So, I practiced with stopping participation by breathing and not allowing the particular thoughts to continue. I would tell myself I can only trust/embrace this moment, and take things moment by moment. It’s really the truth – I really can’t predict reality, I can’t tell you what’s going to happen in the next five minutes (unless I deliberately plan to do something) – reality is unpredictable so the best I see is to take things moment by moment – stop the projections and fears about flying and just be here in the moment, doing your thing.

To make myself relax on the plane, I would at times read a magazine or rest my eyes. I do suggest for those who are “nervous fliers” to do something you enjoy on the plane, that makes you relax and/or keeps you focused. Much time went by when I would read.

Medicine or medication can be a bridge to assist those nervous/anxious fliers. Flying can also make one a bit sick so sitting over the wing of the plane and/or taking motion-sickness pills may help.

In time to come I will add more support, but this is all I see at this moment. I have to get some unpacking done tonight now. Thanks for reading.

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Day 160: The Fear of Not Being in Control of my Flight & The Solution

So I am going to let go of this fear connection, this fear of not being in control of my flight. I am going to let go of this fear because I understand that the more I participate/fear my flight, the more harm and pain I am doing unto myself and my body, because I know from the past my heart starts racing, palms get sweaty, I become nauseous – I put a lot of stress and strain on my body before and during my flights. This is not cool. Then I know that in participating in the fear-energy I am allowing myself/my beingness to get sucked along with it and then where am I? Lost – not stable and here, breathing. My body, still here, breathing is what I need to equalize myself to before and during these flights (and obviously every moment of my living existence, but specifically putting it into those examples).

I realize from my understanding that the pilots and airport and airline staff workers do what they can to ensure a safe, enjoyable flight for everyone. So therefore, I have to trust the pilot and crew during my traveling journey, but not in the case of projecting through fear that “my life is in their hands.” The best I can do for myself is breathe breathe breathe and be here with my physical body and enjoy it/embrace it. My body is what I have on this flight and it’s what I need to take care of. The crew members and pilots are “taking care” of me by getting me to my destination and that is what I must accept.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear to the reality that I am not in control of the air plane in how it functions, takes off, flies and lands.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear towards the reality/actuality that I cannot be in control of my air plane.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that pilots are trained extensively with flying and therefore they do what they can to make sure all is under control.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not being in control of my flight because I believe that if I were able to see and understand exactly what is going on during my flight I will be able to stop and prevent any problems from happening instead of realizing I am projecting my fear of not being in control onto the plane ride itself by believing that if I were in control/able to see what’s going on/have a say in what the pilots should do, “I would know what to do” if problems came up instead of realizing in reality I would not know what to do because I am not a trained pilot or airline professional and would not be able to assist the pilots or the airline crew members if there was a problem because I never had aviation education – therefore, I delete this belief.

I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that pilots are trained through simulator exercises to be able to understand how to deal with all kinds of air plane problems like engine fires and aborted take-offs so therefore they have the skills and knowledge on what to do with these problems.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize and understand that new pilots are always supervised with an experienced pilot who make sure there are no problems/everything goes smoothly, therefore, my pilot/pilots have or are being supervised by an experienced pilot and therefore I can breathe with knowing that they will do what they can to make a safe and smooth flight for everyone.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear something to happen to the pilot, either that he gets sick or dies or does not perform his task well instead of seeing, realizing and understanding that there are always two pilots on a commercial air plane, therefore if something were to happen to one of the pilots then the other pilot would take control.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the pilots will do what they can to assure their lives and the lives of people on the plane are safe and taken care of and therefore, I can only – as my responsibility – take care of myself by breathing, staying here with my body, doing my things on the plane, keeping busy and directing myself back to breath when/as I see myself go in my mind/into fears. This is the best solution I have for myself.

I had flown many times in my life so I have the experience of being on a plane- it is only when I allow my mind to possess/overwhelm me by fears and imaginations that it becomes a problem.

I commit myself to bring myself back to my breath when and as I see myself go into my mind of thoughts/fears/imaginations because I realize through breathing and being here in my body, I am stable, I am calm, I am relaxed and I am supporting myself and my body.

When and as I see myself react in fear in wanting to be in control of the plane, I stop, I breathe and I bring up the fact that I am not trained in aviations, therefore I will not have any control of my flight but I do have control of myself/my body and therefore, the best I can do for myself is to take care of me by breathing, stabilizing and doing my things on the flight.

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