237. What is the Solution to Inequality Between Teachers?

One of the observations I’ve made at my new job was that I am now able to sit-in at teacher‘s meetings and be able to talk about the students I am working with, and find ways to improve as a teacher with the other teachers. Since I am a teacher’s assistant, I first had the impression I would not have such access, or be equal to the other teachers in being able to sit in these meetings and discuss details about the students progress and any concerns related to the matter.

When I first encountered this I was surprised because at my last school job teacher assistants were not equal to teachers in being able to sit in these teacher meetings and discuss details about students or gain information on the student’s background and anything else that may be necessary to know.

I personally think that being a teacher or assistant one should be able to have as much information about one’s student as possible in order to gain more understanding on them so that they know how to work with them best. Information such as: where the student comes from, how they work, their relationship to their parents, etc is pretty important for teacher’s or assistants to know this or else the teacher and student relationship cannot be optimal.

So, to not get off topic, I now have the opportunity to sit in these teacher meetings and learn more about the individual students and how they work. Not only does this make me feel more connected with the team I’m working in, but I gain information about students that assist me in being able to find ways of working with them best. For example, gaining information from a teacher that student A is developmentally slower than the other children and so we together discuss activities that we can assist him with. Now since I know this student works at a slower pace and even comprehends information at a slower pace, I can now practice talking slower to him for example and being more patient with him. If I did not get this information I may have caused unnecessary friction and conflict between the both of us.

Being equal to a teacher at my new job is a complete turn over from my last job as an instructional aid where I was not allowed to sit in during teacher meetings to talk about the student I was working with. Since I worked one-on-one with a student of autism and spent the majority of my time with him at school, I believed I should have been able to attend the weekly teacher meetings, but because I was in a ”lower” position than the special-ed teacher, for some reason I was not allowed to attend these meetings. It really sucked cause being an instructional aide to a student, you are the number 1 supporter of that student — you must assist them with classwork and be their chaperone, and yet that number 1 person for the student is unable to attend teacher meetings to gain information and support on how best to work with them. Perhaps the reasons regarding having access to teacher meetings now is I work in a Montessori school as opposed to a public school, and I also work in Europe instead of the US.

What would be fantastic is if all teachers and staff working with students have these meetings where they discuss the child’s history and background in a supportive manner, giving each other tips and finding solutions on how to work with the child, so all adults are on the same page when it comes to this student and no one is left out.

A solution would be: One can start walking a process of equalizing oneself to the mind and correcting it within what is best for self, while working with the system in implementing solutions such as Living Income Guaranteed BECAUSE the world system won’t change unless we individually and collectively change — and it starts with self and one’s relationship to one’s mind first. (Image Source)

Educational & Supportive Websites:
Journey to Life Blogs:     Personal Journeys of Self-Discovery
Self & Living: Solutions to Personal Every Day Problems
EQAFE.com  Self-Improvement Interviews
DIP Lite:  Free Self-Development Online Course
Desteni I Process: Online Self-Mastery Course at it’s Finest

235. Got Money Problems in Your Relationship?

Today my partner and I went shopping for pillows and pillowcases. We found our pillows and then found a really soft, silky pillowcase that we really liked and wanted to get. We saw that the only way to purchase the pillowcase was to get it through as package which included the bed sheet too. However, once we saw the price my partner became iffy/uncertain to get it.

From there what happened was that I went into a reaction because I wanted to get this set/package because how I saw it was that we both really wanted it originally and that we could afford it. However, a flood of reactions came through because my husband wasn’t on the same page as me — he actually was looking at whether it is worth it to buy a pillow set like this at the price it was at.

From this, we both become reactive because we weren’t on the same page when it came to purchasing/not purchasing the pillow set. And in our relationship we have that tendency to react easily when it comes to money because we both grew up in different environments and different ways of working with money. For me, for example, coming from a family who would use the credit card a lot and become a little careless about spending whereas my partner’s family come from a mindset of saving every penny, and only buying necessities. So, money is certainty an issue and process we are both walking…

However, to get to my point, we were both obviously not on the same page and reactive. What I realized was that this would only continue (us being reactive and not coming to a solution/answer about the pillowcase point) unless we really talk this out and come up with a practical solution. But what I saw was that I could not get to that point of talking to my partner in stability, I knew what I had to do — I need to apply Self-Forgiveness and release myself of the emotions, otherwise I would end up speaking from/as reactions.

So I took a break from my partner and spoke Self-Forgiveness under my breath. As I spoke I realized I had such a huge desire to get this pillowcase and was angry my partner was not fulfilling this desire to immediately buy it. I was in self-interest, only considering my want and not what would be best for us.  Once I was stable and okay, I went back to my partner and shared with him what I realized. From there on our communication became stable and we were both cool with the decision we made.

So, I’d like to share that when it comes to not being on the same page with your partner and you need to solve a problem, to first apply self-forgiveness on your reactions towards the point and this allows common sense to open up within it and then you can share and work with your partner in finding a practical solution for the both of you. Self-Forgiveness is so cool, give it a shot sometime.

Thanks for reading.

Additional support with communication in relationships:

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 Educational & Supportive Websites:
Journey to Life Blogs:     Personal Journeys of Self-Discovery
Self & Living: Solutions to Personal Every Day Problems
EQAFE.com  Self-Improvement Interviews
DIP Lite:  Free Self-Development Online Course
Desteni I Process: Online Self-Mastery Course at it’s Finest

Day 217: How Too Much Thinking Causes Headaches

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Today I listened to a really interesting audio recording from EQAFE on the brain and how we create headaches due to thinking.

Is it really amazing and fascinating at the same time to listen to how we are basically the creators of our headaches, that it is from our own participation, acceptance and allowance of thoughts from deep-seated emotions that create such pains within our own brains to the extent that our body communicates to us through headaches.

We so easily take a pill and get on with our life, but the more we allow this, the more this issue, or point that is deeply suppressed within comes out again, either through more headaches, or other consequences within our bodies.

So I saw how I have conditioned myself to basically take medicine or natural medicinal support for my body whenever a headache would strike. Now since listening to the audio recording I have knowledge on the steps to take to actually heal and treat a headache for good.

In a way I am ”looking forward” to when a headache comes again to walk the path suggested to see for myself what I can find and discover of me that I’ve been suppressing/hiding so I can understand and clear the point finally, that way when I face a similar point in the future I can apply the immediate correction before a headache starts. I will definitely share with you all about my findings!

This is going to be a short blog, but I do recommend you check this recording out if you are interested in learning more about how thinking effects the brain and how to heal your headache without medicine. 

Educational & Supportive Websites:
Journey to Life Blogs:     Personal Journeys of Self-Discovery
EQAFE.com  Free Self-Improvement Interviews
DIP Lite:  Free Self-Development Online Course
Desteni I Process: Online Self-Mastery Course at it’s Finest
Relationship Agreement Course: Empower Yourself, Strengthen your Relationships
Desteni Website  Understanding the Human Mind, Oneness & Equality
Desteni Wiki Structured, Organized Information about Self & Solutions
Desteni Forum  Forum with interactive support, resources and tools 

Day 200: Walking a Point into Completion?

Today I listened to the EQAFE interview What is Self Awareness and one thing I realized was how I have the tendency to not bring points into completion. This can be seen in my blogs where I will start with a point and then the next day work on another point, and the first point thus gets left on the “back burner” and I cycle into this pattern and then resist going back to working on the old points. I understand that walking one point at a time into completion and correction allows self to receive the gifts of new insights and realizations of self-awareness that come within walking the specific process.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist walking a point into completion because I have never really, truly, self-honestly done it before

I commit myself to pick one point and align my time and schedule to walking the point within a consistent manner so I develop consistency and also assist myself to practice walking points into absolute completion

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist within the behavior of writing and focusing on one point, and the the next day walking a different point and from this, pushing the first point behind instead of bringing each point through into completion through my blog because I realize if I do not follow through on my points anger and irritation build up within me because I know self-honestly I am not sticking to one point and this only fuels/supports laziness within me. I realize it takes real dedication, “hard work” as effort, focus and discipline to be able to walk through a point into its completion, and from this I understand that gifts of self-awareness and realization will emerge the more I continue walking points through and within dedication

I commit myself to use myself as cross-reference to see whether I am pulling a point through enough by checking with myself self-honestly because I realize if I do not follow through on a point anger and irritation build up cause I know I’m not changing enough/as effectively, so I assist and support myself to align within walking each point to the best of my ability

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed laziness and apathy to override the motivation to pull a point through by walking all the steps and dimensions required because of the resistance attached to the fact/reality that it’s going to take a while and require a lot of time and effort on my part to pull a point through into completion and from this, I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to push myself through the resistance when I face the fact/reality that I need to add more, investigate more, go deeper more in a point since I realize it takes time, effort and patience

I realize it is not something one can do within a certain expected time because I realize each point is unique and has it’s own energy and time-frame, thus I take and “treat” each point as the uniqueness it is and walk with no expectations about it, walking this point for me within the realization and starting point that walking this point will allow me to learn more about myself and empower myself to take control of my life and change myself from an energetic-consciousness-fueled robot to a self-aware being. I also realize gifts of insights and realizations come through the more I push through the resistances towards walking through a point to its utmost completion

I commit myself to push through any resistance I face towards finishing/completing a point by reminding myself that I am exactly where I need to be and through pushing through the resistance I will uncover more dimensions and gifts of insight that will assist me in actually getting the point done and from this I commit to live realizations that come through and redefine myself/who I am as I walk each point in its completion

Okay, I will stop here for today. I will continue with the point I recently left off with (redefining the word RELAX) for the next blog post…thanks for reading.

Day 120: Facing the Reality of Abused Children Part 2

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Continuation from: Day 199: Facing the Reality of Abused Children

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing the reality of abused children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not want to face and see the reality of children living the consequences of the abuse that has been put upon them from others/parents as I realize I cannnot stop and/or prevent such an atrocity because it’s “too late.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to escape seeing children who have been abused and/or abandoned due to the reality of it not being “pretty” that also indicate a serious problem that is existing on earth.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see that the reality of accepting and allowing children to be abused is the reality that me and all of humanity is allowing to exist without finding any permanent solutions to stop it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel helpless and defenseless when seeing children who have been abused and from this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to wish to have ‘saved’ the children from being abused instead of realizing I cannot save or stop the abuse towards all children in this world – it’s impossible and impractical and would not stop parental abuse in totality due to how we exist and live in a world system of separation, competition and survival due to our participation in the system as well as our participation within and as energy of consciousness from and as our mind.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to “save” myself meaning, stop me from my own participation of self-abuse of and as consciousness of energies/thoughts/feelings/emotions.

I commit myself to utilize writing, self-forgiveness and self-corrective application to release myself from and as consciousness and into practical physical living/awareness.

I commit myself to put my time and money into a solution that will bring a world Best for All – the Equal Money System that will eventually put an end to all abuse in this world.

I commit myself to educate myself more on how to stop the abuse within me in how I participate within my mind and the world system so that I may stand as an example for others on how to stop abusing themselves and others.

Additional Support: 
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