224: To Become a Leader…

I got the chance to organize an event for international women to come together, meet and make new friends at a nice restaurant. Since I was the organizer I got there early and planned to make sure I greet everyone who comes, as well as say goodbye, and get to know as many women as I could. This opportunity also allowed me to make new friends in the city I am living in, which is really cool!

So, there are many points I’d like to share that I have discovered and realized when I attended this event, but I will take one point and write about it in its own post blog over a series of blog about becoming a leader, or an effective organizer of a group. Because since I am the leader/creator/organizer of the group, I realize I have a lot of responsibility, not only from a managerial side, but from a standing-within-principle side, where it is my duty and responsibility to treat each member of this group the way I would like to be treated, and to become the organizer/leader of the group that stands within principles of what is best for all. This means, no judging of any member, speaking within support and never gossip, accepting and welcoming all who are interested, and stopping any form of comparison or competition within me.

Because I have seen these points come up in my face as I interacted with the ladies in the group. I saw how my mind went into judgement, into comparison, into not feeling good enough/self esteem issues, into worry about people not liking me, into competition towards other woman… points that I saw that are not cool and not what should exist in an organizer/leader of a group.

I met with an individual the other day and thought that they were very judgmental and it made me realize that I don’t want to be like that as a person/leader. Then later someone assisted me to see how I within that had actually done exactly that — I was judging the other person for judging, which I didn’t see when I was in the situation –  thus showing me exactly that what I had seen in another still exists in myself and I could confirm the realization that: that this is not the kind of leader I want to be, and  I still have work to do in myself to create myself as the leader I want to be.

So — I am going to from here on start a blog series focusing on becoming and creating myself into an organizer/leader that stands and exists within the principles of what is best for all.

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Day 222: Working Together

I took the initiative to start up a Facebook group for women living in the (foreign) country I live in as a way for other women to ask questions, get answers, network, and share services/works with other women. I did this because I had a few ”women” questions that I was not comfortable asking in public Fbook groups so I decided to open up my own group, a ”safe, closed group” so to speak where women can assist other women with problems/questions in the specific city they are living in.

I offered my invitation to a Fbook Women’s Association group (where they are also located in the same city as me) to join in. Then, a few of these women started to advertise/promote their group in the Fbook group I created. They wrote about how all the women’s questions living in a foreign country can be answered in their group. From there, I felt like it was getting competitive, like they wanted to take away the women in MY group, and it got to the point where I wanted to start blocking these women, until I realized, hey wait, I’m in reaction, and I know that I create consequences when I’m in reaction, so let’s stop, breathe and see maybe I can work something out with these ladies.

So I reached out, and I messaged one of the women and told them that I can help their group by placing a document in the files section of my Fbook Women’s group with their information, so, if they see that another can benefit from looking into their group, they can point the person to the document. Then from that I started adding other resources and information that women may want to look up if they need additional assistance. Because then I realized, this is not just MY group, it’s a group for women to gain and share information and resources with each other to make living in a foreign country a little easier. This was my original intent of creating the group in the first place, though reactions had to get in the way and I made things personal for a moment.

Anyways, my idea worked out well, and it turned out that the women contact me in need of assistance with their website (because in their group women pay for membership), and they asked me if I could assist, so just today I met one of the women, got to find out more about her and where she comes from and from there, was gifted volunteer opportunities in the group which will assist me in networking with others (in hopes to find a job) and expand my skills.

Thus, the point I’d like to share is that working WITH others is so much more beneficial than working against others, because you may never know what will open up.







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Day 221: What I Realized After Not Getting the Job

I walked some private Self-Forgiveness in relation to my reactions towards not getting the job I wanted, and certain insights and realizations came through that I want to share here:

One of the points I realized from my writing today was how easily I create and give into certain ideas about myself and situations. For example, I believed that I was going to get this teaching job, and I convinced myself I was going to get it because of memories I held onto that fueled this belief, such as when the director of the school said I was their favorite candidate and that the head teacher said they will ”see me later” when we said goodbye. From these two instances I took their words ”to heart” and fueled them into the idea that I was going to get the job, because 1) I was their favorite, and 2) the head teacher really likes me and said see you later, possibly indicating I will see her when I get the job.

However, I was not certain I was going to get the job because I had to wait to officially find out. So even despite thinking/believing I was going to get the job according to an idea based on memories, reality still had yet confirmed if it was true. And this made me uncertain about the outcome, because the point is — only reality can confirm whether something is real or not, because even if I was the school’s favorite candidate, does not mean that I will be their favorite the next day, because possibly maybe another candidate comes in with better qualifications/skills and thus, everything changes- I am no longer the favorite. Then perhaps the head teacher, having said ”see you later,” could have been an empty goodbye (meaning, not being serious in that she really will see my later.)

I was first angry at myself for really believing I was going to get the job, like placing my entire trust in this idea, convincing myself because of this idea I had based on a few moments/memories of interaction with the school staff.

A second point is that the director of the school never called me or emailed me to tell me whether the job position was filled or not. I had to find out I didn’t get the job by looking on the school’s website. I had called the school about 2 weeks prior asking about the status on the job position and the director told me she would call after their holiday break, so I trusted her words and waited and didn’t hear anything, so took the initiative to check online for any news and lo and behold, the new teacher’s picture was on there.

Now, my reaction here was also anger because I felt and believed that what they (the director/School) did was not cool. Within that, I wanted to in someway show them that what they did was not right or fair, but today what I realized while watching a movie where Santa told Buddy the Elf that his father was on the ”naughty list” was that I allowed myself to be stuck within the right/wrong good/bad polarity toward the point, where I thought/believed what the director of the school did was wrong/bad as a form of judgement and I wanted to justify that being upset about it is right, but guess what! Being angry over this point is useless because it would in no way change the situation or the director of the school themselves. I need to move on/find another job. Their actions of not calling me is simply showing parts of human nature and the money system that we participate/exist in, where priorities are more focused on self-interest than considering others. So this is not something I should take personally or get emotional about because this is generally what we are all existing in, and this is something I can learn from. I can use this situation to enhance my social skills in making sure that if someone is waiting to hear from me about something, that I make sure I get back to them, and keep to my word.

I share some Self-Forgiveness here:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in anger towards the memory of when I was told I was the school’s favorite and I believed that was going to get me the job, instead of realizing how I should not take such statements and words to heart since it will only in fact be true when/if I get the job, because I realize how easily I believe in such words/statements from others instead of considering the reality that having the job will confirm the actual statement, so within this, I do see how I need to stop taking others words and statements to heart and to only really cross-reference such words through reality by asking questions, observing actions and events

Within this, I now see, realize and understand how ”gullible” (for lack of a better word) I am towards words and statements from others where I so easily believe in their words/statements towards me instead of actually staying grounded, considering how reality/the system words nor believe or define myself according to what people say about me/towards me, but to first check with myself, cross-reference for myself who I am and who I want to be, because I realize I have given a lot of value to what people have said to me, or promised to me, but words have fallen short, so I cannot trust people’s words entirely until it is proven through their actions and deeds, just like I have to prove who I am through my own words, actions and deeds

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to justify that I should be angry when I think about how another did not follow through with their word, instead of realizing that the anger within is indicating a point I exist in but do not want to see or face

I commit myself to become aware of when/where I say one thing but do not follow on my word, because I realize that by doing this shows through me and to others I am not trustworthy, and that I cannot stand in integrity, so I assist and support myself to flag point every point/facet I see within me where my words are not aligned with my actions, and direct myself to realign me into who I am/want to be through living/sticking to my word

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to justify that I should be upset at another for their actions instead of realizing how getting emotional/upset will do nothing to change the person, and that what matters is to actually cross-reference with myself to see if I exist in those same behaviors so then I can correct myself and not exist in it myself, to be able to stand as an example of what is best for all

I commit myself to stop justifying that I should/need to be angry over what another did to me and instead assist and support myself to see if I am existing in a similar point because the anger may also indicate a point I don’t want to see and take responsibility for, since I realize the core nature of us all is in self-interest, thus I want to change this part of me, so I do this by becoming more aware of my behavior and general attitude towards others and find solutions to stop/change this point

That is it for tonight. Thanks for reading.

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Day 180: Trusting Myself and the Process of a Language Exam

Yesterday I had prominent constipation and did some research regarding what this could be since I had in my perspective been eating enough fiber and drinking water. I looked at the point of how I have been projecting me taking a big language exam that’s coming up and freezing up in fear because there is a speaking part to it, and I fear to fail it. I am grateful that this morning my partner pointed out some things in relation to the fear and I saw within myself how I am studying, I am practicing speaking and having conversations in the language and I do have opportunities to take the exam over again if I need to. I was able to relax and after our chat I had a bowel movement free of constipation. I see what is best for me is to relax and trust myself and the exam that is to come.

(Later that day I had a conversation with my partner’s mother in the language I am being tested on and my partner said that I should pass the speaking part of test since I was able to hold a conversation with her. I found it cool to receive this feedback.)

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project me standing in front of the testers and freezing up in fear not knowing how to speak a statement or ask a question in the language I am being tested on

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold onto a memory of when I was given pictures to speak the commands of in the language I am being tested on and freezing up in fear because I did not know how to word or phrase the commands instead of realizing I had not been entirely educated with this point and require to study and understand how to do this

I forgive myself that I have NOT accepted and allowed myself to instead of tensing/freezing up in fear when I encounter words and statements within a language I do not know support myself to study and understand them

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold onto a memory of when I was given pictures to ask questions from in the language I am being tested on within a group activity and reacting in fear because I did not have the vocabulary within me to formulate/structure the sentence

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that just because I did not know how to formulate and structure a sentence or a question from words of another language at that time doesn’t mean I can’t understand them now. I realize that through studying I have integrated more words and phrases of the language than before.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that through tensing and ‘freezing’ up my muscles in fear and not trusting the process of how the exam will unfold for me I consequentially manifest constipation

I forgive myself that I have NOT accepted and allowed myself to relax myself within my body in regards to studying and preparing for the exam, taking things as they are and trusting me when I take the exam through accepting what I know at this stage within my language and conversational skills

I forgive myself that I have NOT accepted and allowed myself to trust the exam process through accepting within myself that I will walk the test to the best of my ability and take it moment by moment walking it as me within what I understand and know

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project me having failed the test and feeling defeated, thinking and manipulating myself into depression through thinking I paid all this money and traveled all this way for nothing instead of realizing I am setting myself up for failure, expecting me to fail to fuel this belief I will fail simply because I am scared of the speaking part of the exam instead of looking how far I’ve come and how much I expanded myself within my language skills

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be nervous about the speaking part of the exam because speaking has been the one activity I have not participated in that much so I do not have much experience and confidence and am afraid I won’t be able to formulate my words and sentences correctly instead of realizing this is a cross-reference for me that I need to practice more conversations the language.  I see, realize and understand that through practicing speaking with my partner and listening to others speak the language, my partner provided feedback about being impressed by my conversation/speaking skills. I continue to study, learn and practice until the big day and breathe through the fears and projections within realizing I am practicing and thus will trust what comes my way by knowing that I will do what I can to pass the test.

I commit myself to accept the test and the process of taking the test as it comes, walking it as me within what I know and understand to the best of my ability

I commit myself to within acceptance of the exam and what I know, relax myself within my body as I realize tensing and freezing up my muscles will make the experience uncomfortable

I commit myself to assist and support myself with areas I am weak in with the language I am learning so I become more confident in it

When and as I see myself project me freezing up during the conversational/speaking part of the exam, I stop, I breathe and I let it go because I realize this projection a memory of when I did freeze up when faced with a language activity I didn’t know how to participate in because of lack of vocabulary and knowledge on what to say, and I realize I have through time integrated more words and have practiced speaking and I continue to walk and learn and expand myself within this language

I commit myself to assist and support me in expanding my speaking/conversational skills within the language through listening and participating in conversations

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Day 143: Why Am I Allowing Self-Doubt to Creep In? (Part 2)

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Continuation from: Why Am I Allowing Self-Doubt to Creep IN?

Okay,so reading Heaven’s Journey to Life I have come to understand that committing myself to stop this point of self-doubt within walking my process is a decision to make for myself, because what I have been doing was following my mind and automatically allowing whatever comes up in my mind to define me and how I experience myself, so if I simply change my starting point of allowing myself and my self-will to take precedence over my mind and it’s beliefs, I am able to change and stop this point of self-doubt within me.

Because from the previous blog I asked myself the questions: 

Why am I allowing these thoughts/backchats to hinder me and my ability to walk? Why do I give such value to these thoughts/backchats?

That’s because I’ve made the decision to allow my mind and these backchats to override my will power/my own self-directive power and decision making when it comes to what I will accept and allow. So it’s like I basically gave my entire self/power to my mind, finding/seeing/believing myself to be less than the mind, finding the mind to be bigger than me instead of realizing that I am able to change this relationship towards my mind because I must have created, accepted and allowed this relationship to exist in the first place.

So point one is to: Stop allowing these backchats/thoughts tell me what I can and can’t do by making a decision for myself to change my relationship towards myself and my mind to that of SUPPORT by no longer fearing my mind and seeing myself less than it because I created this relationship to my mind where I found myself to be less than it, so I make simple commitments to myself that I will stick by to show/prove to myself that I am the one in charge – where I am self-directive principle within what is Best for All, because I realize that I am able to take back that power I gave to the mind by making clear decisions and sticking to them.  I have given value to what my mind would say, I believed those backchats about me walking process to be me and real and I allowed myself to cycle in self-sabotage and self-doubt by participating, accepting and allowing thoughts and backchats to tell me who I am and what I can/can’t do.

…Because, as I’ve explained: commitment takes an allowance/permission and then the choice/action to stick to/live out the commitment. Therefore, with our allowance/permission of participating in the mind/giving into reactions being so automated, seemingly natural and so immediate in choice/action: is why we don’t even realise how we’re in fact every time committing to the Mind. Therefore, making the decision to change one’s commitment to self, to a better self, way of life/living – not only for self/for all, is going to be a process of deliberately, in awareness, in moments sticking to/standing by this commitment – making that decision, and living that decision for a changed self/life. – Heavens Journey to Life: Fear of Commitment Part 2

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that stopping my self-doubt when it comes to me not being able to walk process is a decision I make for myself. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed my mind to make decisions for me and who I am and what I can/can’t do in walking process instead of making decisions for me to stop any/all doubt existent within me by committing myself to walk this process and see what emerges/comes forth.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to automatically accept the backchats within me to determine who I am with walking my process instead of realizing that I made a decision to allow my mind to tell me who I am instead of me making the decision to determine who I am, what I will accept and allow and what I will commit to, to see who I’m going to be.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed my mind to tell me who I am going to be when/if I walk this process instead of realizing this is a program running in me that can only be stopped through me making the decision to stop and turn the power back to me where I make decisions based on what will assist and support me best.  Therefore, I see, realize and understand that the backchats I gave value to and allowed to exist within me came from my decision to allow these points to determine who I am, where I allowed myself to beLIEve in them, because I DECIDED TO. So what it takes is me turning the tables by saying “No, this is what I decide – this is what I accept and allow.”

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to change my starting point of allowing my mind to determine who I am and how I feel/experience myself to ME deciding who I am, what I will accept and allow that is best for me/all, because I see, realize and understand that I have given my self/power to the mind to tell me who I am and what I can/can’t do with walking process and I allowed myself to be less than the mind by allowing it to direct me, instead of me being like “No – this is who I am/will accept and allow – I stop.” So essentially – it’s time for me to stand my ground and not let the mind run over me.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself and my self-will to take precedence over my mind and beliefs by changing the starting point of allowing the mind to make decisions for me and determine who I am to ME making decisions for me and determining who I am based within what assists and supports me. I see, realize and understand that allowing self-doubt to creep in that consists of backchats and internal conversations does NOT assist and support me in any way – therefore, by seeing, realizing and understanding that point, I make the decision to assist and support me to understand/find solutions to my self-doubt/points so that I walk clear and steadfast within my process.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give my self/power to my mind by seeing/perceiving/believing myself to be less than my mind instead of realizing that I made it this way – I accepted and allowed myself to be/see myself as less than my mind and feel/believe I am unable to direct or make decisions for me because my mind is ‘too powerful and I can’t stop it’ and from there doubt my own ability to stop, change and direct me because I’ve accepted and allowed an accumulation of thoughts/backchats/internal conversations to tell me who I am instead of me saying “No – stop – I do not accept and allow these backchat/internal conversations/thoughts to tell me who I am, what I can/can’t do because what I’m allowing does not support me. I make the decision to support me and walk this process. I make the decision as to what I will accept and allow to exist within me and my world.”

So it’s all about reversing/changing the starting point of allowing the mind to make decisions for me to ME making decision for me that will assist and support me in this Journey to Life and not allowing the mind or doubt to interfere. So it’s like bringing everything back to me where I become self-directive principle and I direct me with what I see/find to be best/most supportive within self-honesty.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to make clear directive commitments/decisions for myself that I decide to stand by/stick to so that I know exactly who I am and what I will accept and allow within me and my world. This in itself I find to be self-empowering.


To be continued…

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Day 140: Bernard Poolman

Bernard Poolman passed away in the early hours of Sunday morning, 11 August 2013 (SA time). His heart stopped beating. From Creations Journey to Life: My Dad, the Devil

When I read the news that Bernard Poolman passed away I was shocked. I looked over at my partner and just couldn’t believe what I read. Bernard…dead?

At times I feared the man, but it was more like, feared what he would say because I knew that I could find something out about myself that I didn’t want to see or admit. He knew exactly what to say to get people to wake up, and for that, I am grateful. Without him and what he has done through the support he has provided for people through writings, interviews and online chats, the Desteni group wouldn’t be as strong as it is now with the focus and drive to bring a world Best for All.

It wasn’t until his death and reading personal stories from those who physically met him that I saw Bernard in a totally different way than what I perceived him to be. That is another indication to me that my mind cannot be trusted because I had formed ideas about him and it’s really useless to do so because only through physically meeting a person is the truth revealed. Now I am reading his writings and listening to his videos from a different perspective. I see that I had come to depend on Bernard and his support for my process where I had not been standing firmly on my feet and walking this process self-honestly. From this, I realize I have work to do to re-establish who I am, my starting point and the process I am walking.

I am grateful that I was able to interact with him through online chats. I had a few personal interactions with him online when I needed specific support. For example, I needed assistance on a child I was working with at a school who had major behavioral issues that was affecting his time in the classroom. I asked Bernard if he had any support on how to work with a child like that and he explained exactly why the child was acting the way he did and the problem came down to vocabulary and reading. Bernard said that a way to assist the child is working with a certain computer software program. I knew of this software beforehand and how costly it was, but Bernard offered me the software free with additional support from him and his contacts. I couldn’t believe it that he gave me something like that for free for me and the child, and as I worked with the child on the software, the child’s behavior and reading level improved within the next 5 months.

Bernard also assisted and supported me to see the disharmony and conflict I was experiencing in the beginning of my relationship with my partner because of what I was accepting and allowing.

Michelle: I realized from my (previous) chat with Sunette I was judging (me and my partner’s) enjoyment, and becoming more quiet within my conversation with him
Bernard: “So, what have you Learned? The Power of Judgment can Change a Person? And Limit your Expression?”
Michelle: Yeah – it was not cool – I was listening to my backchat and thinking that I’m talking to him too much.

In another chat I said to Sunette that the relationship with my partner is like “bumps in the road” and Bernard came through:

Bernard: “I Love bumps in the road…Bumps give one Feedback, that backchat can be Real – that’s Why bumps is something that one must remove from the backchat. Or, it could turn into Zits – little yellow mountains on your skin…so Lovely.”

He knew just what to say to get me to see what I was doing so I could correct myself in the relationship, and as for the zit part — what do you know, about three days after the chat I popped a nasty yellow pus-filled zit on my back, lol.

Bernard understood the mind in exact detail, understood the world system and had a solution for each problem. From that he was able to understand all kinds of people from all walks of life. I have read chats where he gave support to people on everything from erectile dysfunction to effective parenting, providing thorough explanations and points for people to look at and understand.

Looking at all this, Bernard became who he was because he actually LIVED the principles of Equality and Oneness through walking a process of writing, self-honesty, self-forgiveness and self-corrective application. This is the same process that we at Desteni are currently walking, to become that which Bernard stood as – a being of Life – no mind/energy/consciousness influence, but of absolute self-directive principle within Equality and Oneness. He himself proved that anyone can walk this process, because he did it himself and continued to stand as an example of what is possible. Bernard applied and lived the principles of Jesus in practical reality; the principles being: Give as you would like to receive, Do unto another that which you would like to be done unto you, and Investigate all things and keep that which is good.

I wish I could have physically met him, but in a way, Bernard is still here – his interviews, words and writings are still here – and it now up to me and everyone as humanity to walk this process until we have a world Best for All. I miss him, but I also realize it’s necessary to move on, and do what needs to be done.

“So if you Respect, Love, Appreciate and are Grateful to Bernard, to his Existence and the work that he left in this world – commit yourself to live by his words, as I commit myself to live by the example that he was for all of us Here.” ~ Marlen Vargas Del Razo

“Many beings will be sad because Bernard has died – but his death is not about keeping a legacy alive, hell no – we’re not going to ‘honor his memory’. He would have said: “fuck that.” lol – Honoring Bernard is honoring ourselves as life – Honoring Bernard is sharing the Living Word as it has been shared with us and to stand in every moment of Breath here walking the process of establishing a world that is best for all. I will miss Bernard tremendously and I am eternally grateful to have met him. But even for those who haven’t met Bernard in person – it is not a loss. Because Bernard was never about the personal. He said: “You must become me as I am you, so that we can trust each other no matter where we are, no matter who we are.”” – Anna Brix Thomsen

“Bernard had no judgment toward anyone or anything, because he realized that that is the key to us ever changing – is for us to Forgive. Forgive each other, Forgive ourselves, and MOVE ON. To let go of everything and start anew, because it’s the only way we can get out of these same patterns that we’ve been living as for practically as long as we’ve existed. We have to forgive ourselves of the patterns we’ve existed as, so that we can become something else, so that we can Forge ourselves as beings that Care for Ourselves and Care for Each Other, and never again allow such Extreme Abuse to take place as we have allowed thus far.” – Kelly Posey

“For those that are walking process, as I have mentioned, have been walking it for themselves, the MY-SELF – the realisation that: the process to Life each one has to walk, is INDIVIDUALLY. Thus, the process is the same, but the point that one will stand, HOW one will express as the Principle, Direct as the Principle – will be different for each one and can only be discovered through one’s self-honesty within and as the starting-point Principle and the walking of the Tools. So, remember – the process is to self realise through/as YOUR-SELF, not BERNARD-SELF. I mean, if in the dictionary it was referenced as BERNARD-SELF, then yeah lol – it would be to “become Bernard”…but it’s not. Bernard self-realised HIM-SELF, so you have to self-realise YOUR-SELF. And this “him/her” and “your” SELF – the SELF-point is where we’re standing within the principle of equality and oneness as life as what is best for all. It is the journey to life of the SELF – of myself as Sunette, of yourself as you. How we’re going to be/stand/direct – you cannot “know”, cause it’s NOT a knowledge point, you can only discover is through actually LIVING the principle and this is/will be a process from Consciousness to Awareness, from System to Life – the birthing of self as life in/as the Physical.
Have a look – it’s myself, yourself, him/her-self – the SELF point is the equal point, is the oneness point. So, this is the point that has to stand in the principle of/as equality and oneness as what is best for all, and then the “my / your / him/her” is the point where each one will be ‘individual’ in terms of how you will stand/express/direct as life. Bernard had walked his point, now it’s time to find/realise/live your point – and we will all find/realise that point through how he found/realised his point, which is through the Tools Desteni Provides.” – Sunette Spies of Heaven’s Journey to Life

Have a look – it’s myself, yourself, him/her-self – the SELF point is the equal point, is the oneness point. So, this is the point that has to stand in the principle of/as equality and oneness as what is best for all, and then the “my / your / him/her” is the point where each one will be ‘individual’ in terms of how you will stand/express/direct as life. Bernard had walked his point, now it’s time to find/realise/live your point – and we will all find/realise that point through how he found/realised his point, which is through the Tools Desteni Provides.

– See more at: http://heavensjourneytolife.blogspot.com/2013/08/the-beginning-and-end-as-here.html#sthash.nEUuwKAE.dpuf

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