Day 188: Fear of Flying Support

I spent the weekend in another state and thus had to fly. I walked writings in relation to the fear of flying before and realized the best I can do for myself is to relax my body, accept the moment and do my thing/keep busy while flying, because I have no control of the plane. Flying is just another form of transportation, like taking a train or a boat, except you are in the air and experience the occasional turbulence.

About turbulence… this was what I really didn’t like at first, and I would go into instant emotional reactions when I would feel the slightest bumps and dips of the plane and when it became more moderate would go into tons of stress. I began practicing to breathe, to stop projecting what may come and be here, allowing myself to “embrace” the turbulence so to speak, and this assisted and supported me in accepting it, allowing it to come and go. I understand that I can’t do anything about it, so I have to accept it.

Another point is also that I had the tendency to before flying to go into “what-if” scenarios while on the plane ride. After listening to the EQAFE interview Death Research: Plane Crash interviews I learned it’s best not to entertain these fears and I have found this type of participation/entertainment within the mind only perpetuates fear and does absolutely nothing to support me, but actually makes me feel “worse” or more nervous and anxious . So, I practiced with stopping participation by breathing and not allowing the particular thoughts to continue. I would tell myself I can only trust/embrace this moment, and take things moment by moment. It’s really the truth – I really can’t predict reality, I can’t tell you what’s going to happen in the next five minutes (unless I deliberately plan to do something) – reality is unpredictable so the best I see is to take things moment by moment – stop the projections and fears about flying and just be here in the moment, doing your thing.

To make myself relax on the plane, I would at times read a magazine or rest my eyes. I do suggest for those who are “nervous fliers” to do something you enjoy on the plane, that makes you relax and/or keeps you focused. Much time went by when I would read.

Medicine or medication can be a bridge to assist those nervous/anxious fliers. Flying can also make one a bit sick so sitting over the wing of the plane and/or taking motion-sickness pills may help.

In time to come I will add more support, but this is all I see at this moment. I have to get some unpacking done tonight now. Thanks for reading.

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Day 56: Desire to Indulge Watching TV

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to do nothing but watch TV all day.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to indulge in watching TV all day and do nothing at all, and from this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become lazy within myself, and from this laziness, become apathetic in wanting to assist and support myself to walk my process of self-realization and self-change.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see that I am the only one who is able to break this pattern of indulgence and laziness, and as long as I continue to participate in indulgence, such as watching hours of TV and not disciplining myself to walk my process as effectively as I can, I am sabotaging myself and the opportunity I have to birth myself as Life.  I see, realize and understand that the tools of breathing, writing, self forgiveness, self honesty and self corrective application is the only way to break these patterns.

I forgive myself that I have NOT accepted and allowed myself to investigate the areas in my life where I am lazy and am indulging in and as self-interest.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to watch TV for hours as a means to hide myself from my reality and the experiences within me, as I realize that the experiences within me won’t go away but must be understood in order to be directed effectively.

This point/pattern will be expanded in posts to come.  For now, here are some self commitment statements:

I commit myself to investigate through writing, self forgiveness and self honesty WHY and HOW I ended up where I am now in my process, participating in laziness, apathy and seeking entertainment as a form of indulgence to escape myself and reality.

I commit myself to investigate and redefine the word apathy to see how I have been living this word in my life and from that, find practical solutions to change myself from an apathetic being to a being who cares for oneself and others as Life.

I commit myself to – through writing, self forgiveness and self honesty, investigate what areas in my life I am allowing myself to be lazy in and indulge as a form of self-interest and through understanding, assist and support myself to stop these patterns through self corrective application.

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