Day 188: Fear of Flying Support

I spent the weekend in another state and thus had to fly. I walked writings in relation to the fear of flying before and realized the best I can do for myself is to relax my body, accept the moment and do my thing/keep busy while flying, because I have no control of the plane. Flying is just another form of transportation, like taking a train or a boat, except you are in the air and experience the occasional turbulence.

About turbulence… this was what I really didn’t like at first, and I would go into instant emotional reactions when I would feel the slightest bumps and dips of the plane and when it became more moderate would go into tons of stress. I began practicing to breathe, to stop projecting what may come and be here, allowing myself to “embrace” the turbulence so to speak, and this assisted and supported me in accepting it, allowing it to come and go. I understand that I can’t do anything about it, so I have to accept it.

Another point is also that I had the tendency to before flying to go into “what-if” scenarios while on the plane ride. After listening to the EQAFE interview Death Research: Plane Crash interviews I learned it’s best not to entertain these fears and I have found this type of participation/entertainment within the mind only perpetuates fear and does absolutely nothing to support me, but actually makes me feel “worse” or more nervous and anxious . So, I practiced with stopping participation by breathing and not allowing the particular thoughts to continue. I would tell myself I can only trust/embrace this moment, and take things moment by moment. It’s really the truth – I really can’t predict reality, I can’t tell you what’s going to happen in the next five minutes (unless I deliberately plan to do something) – reality is unpredictable so the best I see is to take things moment by moment – stop the projections and fears about flying and just be here in the moment, doing your thing.

To make myself relax on the plane, I would at times read a magazine or rest my eyes. I do suggest for those who are “nervous fliers” to do something you enjoy on the plane, that makes you relax and/or keeps you focused. Much time went by when I would read.

Medicine or medication can be a bridge to assist those nervous/anxious fliers. Flying can also make one a bit sick so sitting over the wing of the plane and/or taking motion-sickness pills may help.

In time to come I will add more support, but this is all I see at this moment. I have to get some unpacking done tonight now. Thanks for reading.

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Day 10: Walking in on Someone Going to the Bathroom

I was at a café and had to use the bathroom. There were 2 unisex bathrooms available, and as I opened the door, I saw someone on the toilet. I reacted in fear and closed the door.  This reminded me of a time when I was at home and accidently walked in on my father who was using the bathroom and he reacted in anger by making a very sharp bark of  “HEY!” that scared me away
Self Forgiveness:
Reaction & Fear:
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear when I accidently walked in on someone going to the bathroom.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear seeing someone exposed on the toilet.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the reactions I may receive from the person I accidently walked in on while they were going to the bathroom because then I will have to face the reaction within me.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist facing the reactions within me because I believe them to be scary, which is a belief that only keeps me limited and controlled to not stand up and face myself as my reactions and let them go.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hide from facing reactions within me by ignoring them and suppressing them within, not realizing that even if I were to ignore or suppress my reactions, they are still existent within me and will come up again to be dealt with.  I see, realize and understand that there is no point in ignoring and suppressing my reactions towards something as what requires to be done is to face them and let them go so that I am free from them.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear getting yelled at in anger from the person I accidently walked in on while they were going to the bathroom through belief that their anger can affect me.  From this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to personally feel attacked by others reactions towards me, instead of realizing that I am the only one who is able to give myself permission to be influenced by others reactions towards me, thus I see, realize and understand that my reactions towards another are actually reactions towards myself that I must take responsibility for, because I created and became them.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that accidently walking in on someone going to the bathroom is frightening, not realizing that I have made it seem frightening because of how my parents reacted when I walked in on them going to the bathroom.  
I have attached being yelled at and reacted to as a frightening thing. I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect being yelled and reacted to as a frightening thing.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe being yelled at and reacted to to be a frightening thing because I believe that it is a personal attack to who I am, not realizing that I am only making it seem so because I allowed myself to create and experience this belief within me.
Self Corrective Statement
When and as I see myself react in fear because I walked in on someone going to the bathroom, I stop, I breathe, close the door, walk away and do not allow myself to participate in fear because I realize that I have created and defined the experience of walking in on someone going to the bathroom as a frightening thing according to how my parent reacted to me when I walked in on them accidently.  So, I just breathe, and stop any reactions I have through self forgiveness. 

Guilt:
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience guilt after I accidently walked in on someone going to the bathroom because I believed what I did was wrong instead of realizing that I have judged the experience as being wrong because my parent reacted to me negatively when I walked in on them while they were going to the bathroom and from that experience, I took my actions as being wrong.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define me as a badperson because I accidently walked in on someone going to the bathroom.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define the experience of me walking in while someone is going to the bathroom as a bad thing.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my action of accidently walking in while someone was going to the bathroom as a bad thing to do, not realizing that I created, accepted and allowed myself to believe that  what I did was wrong.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my actions in polarity as either right or wrong.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist within guilt for accidently walking in on someone going to the bathroom.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to participate within the thought that me accidently walking in while someone was going to the bathroom was bad, from this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I have done something wrong/bad – within this trapping myself in guilt, which perpetuates abuse within me.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist in guilt, participating in my thoughts by replaying what happened over and over, instead of stopping the guilt through stopping my participation in the mind, realizing that it happened and that I can’t do anything about it so the best approach for me is to breathe, drop it and let it go.
Self Corrective Statement:
When and as I see myself go into guilt because I accidently walked in on someone go to the bathroom, I stop, I breathe and do not allow myself to continue participating in guilt because I realize that if I experience guilt that means that I believe that I did something wrong/bad, which is me trapping myself in the polarity of right and wrong.  So, what I do is assist and support myself to stop mulling inside with guilt, and forgive myself and let the guilt go, because what I did was an accident, and accidents do happen.